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  • Counting My People, by Dr. Helen Davey

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/helen-davey/counting-my-people-an-aut_b_354491.html
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on November 13, 2009

  • Friendship and Mourning

    Jacques Derrida wrote: ''Philia [friendship] begins with the possibility of survival. Surviving--that is the other name of a mourning whose possibility is never to be awaited.'' In other words, every friendship is structured from the beginning by the possibility that one friend will die first and the surviving friend will be left to mourn. Death ...
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on October 2, 2009

  • Grieving Lost Innocence

    A traumatic loss shatters what I have called the ''absolutisms of everyday life'' (RD Stolorow, Trauma and Human Existence, Routledge, 2007), the system of illusory beliefs that allow us to experience the world as stable, predictable, and safe. Thus, when we lose a loved one, we must grieve not only the person but also the innocence we have lost.
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on May 7, 2009

  • Finitude

    FINITUDERobert D. StolorowIf we’re not self-lying,we’re always already dying.If we’re not self-deceiving,we’re always already grieving.The answer to the existential quiz?“Good-bye is all there is.”
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on April 22, 2009

  • Always Grieving

    In my view, we NEVER ''recover'' from grief. We find a place for it in an expanded life. (See RD Stolorow, Trauma and Human Existence, Routledge, 2007.)
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on April 21, 2009

  • Emotional Trauma and Insecurity

    In my book, Trauma and Human Existence (Routledge, 2007), I claimed that the essence of emotional trauma lay in the shattering of what I called the ''absolutisms of everyday life''--the illusory beliefs that allow us to experience the world as stable, predictable, and safe. Trauma exposes our finitude and the finitude of all those with whom we are ...
    Posted to Grieving by Robert D. Stolorow on April 4, 2009