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Re: Getting some strange
Lot of women in this thread responding angrily to my post saying how much women want to have random, animal sex too. So here's my open letter to women. Dear the Women of this world, I'm writing on behalf of all men here. If you want to have lots of random, uncommitted, NSA sex with any of us, we are happy to oblige. Even if you're ...
Posted to XX Factor by grepya on May 22, 2008
Getting some strange
I'm a married guy. I love reading the XX Factor because of the general tone of the discussion being more confidential, just-among-us-girls type of thing than the usual ''serious'' articles even by the same contributors. I'm pretty sure the contributors therein know that their ''emails'' to each other are being published on a website that anyone ...
Posted to XX Factor by grepya on May 22, 2008
Re: Take the Monogamy Challenge...
The trouble is this prescription neatly ignores the inequity of it. Men can have the flings in and out of marriage. Single guys can play the market without being subjected to enormous social condemnation. This means men have a choice that women can never exercise. This asymmetry gives women yet another reason (on top of all others) to not be ...
Posted to XX Factor by cfarris on May 21, 2008
re: the secret lives of married men
I think Meghan had some trenchant observations. Phillip Weiss comes off in her views as someone who wants to relive his adolescent sex fantasies from his college days while his wife stays home being the responsible monogamous adult. This sounds hypocritical and exploitative to me. That much is obvious. However, intriguing questions arise from ...
Posted to XX Factor by cfarris on May 21, 2008
Better data than Cookie's Cheating Survey
The General Social Survey (sociology's premier social survey - and of course, unlike Cookie, it's nationally representative) asks how many people have EVER cheated on their spouse. The average over the last decade is about 13%. If we divide that up by gender, it's 17% of men and 11% of women. Now, eyeballing the data by income (the website ...
Posted to XX Factor by CG2S on May 13, 2008
Hi-Class Adultery
When discussing the ''collateral damage'' done to the family of a serial adulterer, no one seems to want to bring the really ugly out into the open. We can yawn on and on about the drop in social status of a Mrs. Spitzer, and her children. But every time I see one of these political wives standing silently by her man as he makes his obligatory, ...
Posted to XX Factor by NewYorkSparky on March 13, 2008
A Man's Rant: Spandex and Public viewing
After going to the gym nearly everyday over the past couple weeks, I am compelled to rant on a matter of public decorum which is visually distracting but seems to escape all public mention. WEARING SPANDEX CLOTHING IN PUBLIC WITH NOTHING OVER IT IS IMMODEST, PROVOCATIVE, AND at the very least PUBLICLY OBTUSE and at worst PUBLICLY SALACIOUS. ...
Posted to Dear Prudence by Usama2 on January 4, 2008
Forty-year gap invalidates comparison
Since cultural practices can change substantially over the decades, a 1990s sex survey can't nullify or invalidate a survey conducted in the mid-1950s. It could be that the Greatest Generation really did enjoy more sex outside of marriage than their offspring. How else do you think they acquired that tag?
Posted to The Sex Issue by MarkCaplan on September 27, 2007