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  • Re: "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    IncogNeato: SusanM: As somebody that had a cheating spouse, I have to say that I just really don't get that. Sex is just sex! Inserting a penis into a vagina isn't that big of a deal. The only reasons that cheating is a big deal is because of the accompanying emotions and that means the cheater's as well as the cheatee's. Of course her feelings ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 5, 2009

  • Re: more "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    He was away on business and then her co-worker hit on her and she knew she could get away with it. Her ex-boyfriend was in town and she still had feelings for him. Hubby got mono and a girl just gets horny after a couple of weeks without. The phrase contributing situation could mean just about anything, it doesn't mean he did anything wrong. And ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 4, 2009

  • Re: "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    mermaid33:It terrifies these guys that women can enjoy sex with them just for the pleasure of having sex without being in wuv with them. They feel so used! There you go again, we didn't say it scared us, and we didn't say we felt used. I did say that I didn't think there is such a thing as just sex. What I meant, is that lust IS emotion. (For ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 4, 2009

  • Re: "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    zsr: As far as I know I've never been cheated on. But I've been with enough men to know that the idea of a quick cold lay with absolutely NO emotional connection is somewhat a myth (I've found even men who fear commitment to be surprisingly tender.) And quite frankly, if it IS quick and cold, you can accomplish the act all on your own without ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 4, 2009

  • Re: "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    mermaid33: Btw, he also had the option of breaking up with her before he started the negative behavior that led to the disintergration of their marriage and the resulting affair. Now I'm calling you out on this one. The letter does not say he had negative behavior before the affair. It does not say their marriage disintegrated. It vaguely ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 4, 2009

  • Re: "contributing situations that led me to cheat"

    I've had kind of the same thoughts on the ''contributing situations'' thing. You have an affiar, it's your fault. If I don't do enough laundry or listen closely when you talk about your friends, that's irrelevant, it doesn't justify it. Cheaters (and their sympathizers) will try to argue differently but it's mostly just blame-spreading if you ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on June 4, 2009

  • Re: confused daughter - band reunion -bad Prudie

    'There's a difference between trusting your partner and ignoring obvious warning signs. Guys I know do not send their married female friends messages signed love and song lyrics and such. And if the woman really is talking about him all the time and it's not an exxageration, then most likely there's more than just-friends feeling there whether ...
    Posted to Dear Prudence by Jimsthename on May 13, 2009