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To 'The Banned One'
It's so amusing when people who choose to escape their purportedly miserable marriages do so by finding someone new and having an affair, and then expect all affected parties to forgive and accept and welcome the adulturous back into the warm family embrace. This situation isn't about a still bitter, betrayed ex-wife who may have poisoned her ...
Posted to Dear Prudence by BBaiett on June 21, 2008
Philip Weiss on infidelity and marriage
What seemed to be missing for me in both Weiss' article and in the responses I've read in the XX factor so far is the concept of emotional intimacy and respect in marriage. If you are emotionally intimate in your marriage, and share everything, respecting your partner and not suspecting them of hidden agendas, etc., then at least for me, the ...
Posted to XX Factor by mcbruhn on May 26, 2008
Re: Getting some strange
Lot of women in this thread responding angrily to my post saying how much women want to have random, animal sex too. So here's my open letter to women. Dear the Women of this world, I'm writing on behalf of all men here. If you want to have lots of random, uncommitted, NSA sex with any of us, we are happy to oblige. Even if you're ...
Posted to XX Factor by grepya on May 22, 2008
Getting some strange
I'm a married guy. I love reading the XX Factor because of the general tone of the discussion being more confidential, just-among-us-girls type of thing than the usual ''serious'' articles even by the same contributors. I'm pretty sure the contributors therein know that their ''emails'' to each other are being published on a website that anyone ...
Posted to XX Factor by grepya on May 22, 2008
re: the secret lives of married men
I think Meghan had some trenchant observations. Phillip Weiss comes off in her views as someone who wants to relive his adolescent sex fantasies from his college days while his wife stays home being the responsible monogamous adult. This sounds hypocritical and exploitative to me. That much is obvious. However, intriguing questions arise from ...
Posted to XX Factor by cfarris on May 21, 2008
what a husband should do to protect his wife
I just read letter from distressed about how her jerk of a husband allows his best friend to make is wife feel bad. To me it sounds like his best friend is jelous and maybe husband and friend had something going on before wife came into picture why else would his jump all over is wife when she would try to defend herself
Posted to Dear Prudence by hammer43 on March 30, 2008
Re: Why State Involvement In Marriage
I think the whole sexual fidelity thing comes from the property inheritance issue; more important a couple of centuries ago, I guess, but if your son wasn't your son but was the neighbor's son, then he wouldn't have the right to inherit your castle after all; it's sort of fraud.
Posted to XX Factor by gzuckier on November 29, 2007
Time To Move On
Neither J. A. Spring nor Prudence consider the likelihood that a fling might be a good thing for a healthy divorce. Perhaps the couple with the 20 year itch are getting bored with each other and with being ''pillars of the community,'' but are too attached to each other, their families, and their memories to do any of the things that lead to the ...
Posted to Dear Prudence by riccaric on November 10, 2007
Forty-year gap invalidates comparison
Since cultural practices can change substantially over the decades, a 1990s sex survey can't nullify or invalidate a survey conducted in the mid-1950s. It could be that the Greatest Generation really did enjoy more sex outside of marriage than their offspring. How else do you think they acquired that tag?
Posted to The Sex Issue by MarkCaplan on September 27, 2007