women will go wild, and experiment with bad boys and sex, and when they get tired of all that, they'll find some nerdy poindexter to settle for so can retire to a nice house and have some kids.

JP

also supports the old joke: Why are brides always smiling?

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Because they know they've given their last blow job.

There is something to be said for your theory...

Infortunately, saying it would probably get me banned from the Fray for awhile. It would surely get me fined by the FCC if it were said on television or radio.

Mermaid will probably drill me a new one for this but you, sir, are an idiot...

Graylodge:

Mermaid will probably drill me a new one for this but you, sir, are an idiot...

Thank you... I started 3 times to reply to this but... well... what you said...

Judging by some of the women I know, jpfc makes a very good point.

I use listen to Leykis when he was on here in Phx, he was an ass, but an ass that made very good points. I found myself agreeing with him about 95% of what he said.

Some subset of women do behave that way. This poor schmuck of a LW appears to have found one.

I have some friends who act like sexual adventures are not for mature (married) relationships. A friend from college was complaining to me about her current sex life with her husband -- he wanted some spice, and she was aghast at his requests. I said, "What's the big deal? Didn't you use to rave about ( X ) when you dated so-and-so?" She replied, "That type of thing is just inappropriate with my husband."

Reminds me of a joke.

What's the best way to stop a woman from having sex?

Marry her.

There are two kinds of Southern ladies.

The old-fashioned one says, "Ah know mah husband would nevah ask me to puhform oral sex, because he knows ah'm a lady."

The modern one says, "It's all raht if mah husband wants me to puhform oral sex, because he knows ah'm a lady."

(Of course, then there are the modern southern chicks who are just like chicks anywhere, and do - or don't - as they please.)

Is that not only is she not willing to try or do something to spice up their sex life, she so very readily throws in her husband's face the fact she has already done all that with someone else.

While her husband undoubtedly knew he was not marrying a virgin, he hardly needs the insensitivity, lack of respect, lack of desire from her to remind him that as her husband he has nothing new or interesting to offer. That it was the old boyfriends that excited her, and her husband just doesn't excite her enough to want to try to please him.

Not only does he have "nothing new to offer", but she wants to offer nothing to him. Sex is all about her, her, her. She may have enjoyed these things the first time around, but isn't willing to indulge her husband and let him enjoy them, too. How selfish. It's like he doesn't deserve the same as the previous men.

You know what's sad, even though Leykis is an ass, he is fairly accurate in his thoughts on marriage.

The LWs wife was more than happy to please some random dude from her past, but when her husband makes reasonable requests she not only shuts him down, but makes sure to mention that she experimented with past men.

I'm guessing she's waiting to tell him that he has the smallest penis she's ever been with.

jburd1 wrote the following post at 03/13/2008 4:22 PM:

Is that not only is she not willing to try or do something to spice up their sex life, she so very readily throws in her husband's face the fact she has already done all that with someone else.

No, it's the fact that she won't try new things. Her reason for not trying new things is just an extra slap in the face.

The reverse is almost a cliche, so it's no surprise it's happening this way now.

The traits that a person to 'experiment' with have are not necessarily the traits that a person to marry has, for some men and also some women.

Also - when a person's been married a while and has a routine of intimacy they enjoy and feel comfortable with and take pleasure in repeating ad infinitum, maybe trying new things simply isn't at all appealing. Especially things one tried before and didn't enjoy then.

It's like if you had eaten crab souffle at a french restaurant a few years back and it wasn't very good, now the chef at your favorite restaurant where you always get the garlic beef has put crab souffle as his daily special and is encouraging you to try it, but you really just want garlic beef again like usual.

Washing machines just aren't that comfortable, and as women get older our tolerance for discomfort of that sort can leach away. Maybe if he puts more effort into discerning what she likes, he can think of ideas of novel things to try that she would want to do. or, alternatively, tell her that since she doesn't like his spice it up ideas, would she think of some she would like?

"Oh, Chez Pierre at Ooh Laa Laa on the Hudson makes crab souffle SO much better than you!" Especially if you really gave a flip about what the chef at your favorite restaurant thinks?

DLacey:

It's like if you had eaten crab souffle at a french restaurant a few years back and it wasn't very good, now the chef at your favorite restaurant where you always get the garlic beef has put crab souffle as his daily special and is encouraging you to try it, but you really just want garlic beef again like usual.

I think the woman wants out, but doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy. Or, she's got her "Mrs. Degree", the 2.3 children, her minivan, house, and dog. She's set, and doesn't want to be bothered with any of the "inconveniences" of marriage. She just wants to relax and enjoy the privileges.