To the woman who has "unromantic" boyfriend: The first thing that came to my mind is that you should both read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It distinguishes the five different ways that people tend to give/receive love and then you can self-assess your primary and secondary love languages. It's written by a Christian author/psychologist, but it's not inundated with Christian references or proselytizing at all. It's filled more with real-life stories of couples and how learning their "love languages" helped them save their marriages. You sound like you speak in "Gifts" but maybe your fiance speaks in "Touch" or "Service"? Maybe he's really good holding you the right way when you're upset or taking care of bills or things around the house even when you don't notice? Basically, his idea of romance may be completely different and he doesn't even know it. Anyway, hope you'll consider the book, and congratulations on your engagement!

I agree. After reading the book, I was more aware of when my husband was "loving" me. Each spouse should make the effort to recognize the other's love as they naturally express it, AND should make the effort to "speak" in the other's language once in a while.

I was going to make the same suggestion, so I'm glad to see two other readers on board! The Five Love Languages is an excellent book, even if just one of you reads it (but I recommend asking him to read at least the chapter most pertaining to your lingo). It helped me to realize both what I need and what my husband needs, and how he responds. It's not overly Christian or in your face by any means.