I joined eHarmony in the early days, before I learned about the company's questionable policies. I was never thrilled with the matches they proposed for me, but I was completely dumbfounded when one of the matches confessed to me that he had recently ended what he termed a "gay phase" and was looking for a woman to help him put his past behind him.

After toying with the idea of meeting up with this guy so I could introduce him to some of my gay friends for a timely intervention, I instead cancelled my membership along with a scathing letter to their customer service. My problem isn't that they matched me with this guy, but that they obviously support the idea of homosexuality being a curable disease.

Considering how 'thorough' their personality profile is, and the fact that they reject people for admitting things like depression (oh, hey, newsflash to eHarmony, I've been on anti-depressents for years...I just didn't tell them cuz it's not relevent. I had chicken pox when I was a kid, too...) it seems clear to me they must actively accept "formerly gay" people. That, to me, is more upsetting than them rejecting gays up front. At least they're honest about that unacceptable bigotry.

The guy most likely never admitted to being gay in the first place, so stop with your hate rants. Perhaps the problems you had stemmed from your own answers to questions, rather than the answers of others.

I think I'm detecting the self-righteous dribbling of an E-Harmony Cultist...

Here's a heads-up for ya, twinkie-poo: All you have to do to be rejected by E-Harmony is tell them you're not looking for a spouse at this time. ABSOLUTELY NONE of the other "48 dimensions of compatibility" mean a damn thing if you're not desperately hunting your "MRS." (or an obedient little wifey-slave, if you're male).

What, exactly, is hateful about what I said?

It's true, I do strongly dislike people and institutions that encourage such shame and guilt in people that they feel forced to deny their true selves. I refuse to participate in such institutions, and when I found our eHarmony was one, I quit them (with no refund).

My point is that there is a difference between statements eHarmony makes, which they would like you to believe are benign, that they simply don't work with gays because they aren't their focus, or some such nonsense, and the fact I experienced, which is that eHarmony supports the notion that homosexuality is a disease that can be cured by marriage to an appropriately gendered person.

I hate to be the party pooper but Eharmony is NOT:

-A government Agency

-An agency that receives monies from the Government

-A marriage licensing bureau

-A citizenship registry

My point is eharmony is just a FORUM, it's just a venue. It can make up WHATEVER rules it wants. You, as an american citizen, can become an ONLINE DATING SERVICE PROVIDER just like eharmony. And you can do just like chemistry.com and state that one of your 'competitors' rejects people for 'no reason'. Yeah, uh huh. Whatever closes the deal right?

I'm mystified as to why people care so much about whether or not they were accepted by Eharmony. Personally I've tried to 'break' the eharmony questionnaire myself to see what it is I have to say to get rejected-granting that it's something I'd personally be comfortable with lying about and I CAN'T DO IT.

I was a member of eharmony for a while. I even dated someone briefly. He was very dysfunctional and very immature. With all due consideration I still feel like eharmony did it's job; the failing of that particular relationship was my own-I expected that since Eharmony did 'all the hard work' all I'd have to do is show up right? That was a total mistake and a damaging assumption and it was all my fault. Eharmony tells you UPFRONT what it can't do and what it hopes to do but there are still people out there that want to be able to leverage whatever advantage they can in order to get whatever it is they want-male or female. Eharmony also tells you what to look out for and recommends what NOT TO DO once you get to the open communication stage.

After short consideration I decided that I needed to wait to find someone that I want to share my life with because I'm not emotionally ready or prepared to take on the responsibility of a relationship or give it the attention and work it needs to succeed at this time. I'm inclined to believe that most people should operate under this principle but I do not require or indict other members or organizations of society who don't employ this philosophy nor should I be able to. I'm just mystified that so many people get hung up over the 'option' of whether or not a service that they themselves pay to join is open to everyone and whether or not it rejects these other people. Eharmony does a better job than Great Expectations, Perfect Match, Match.com and Chemistry in that it has built a user friendly web based interface that is affordable, easy to use and pretty straight forward. People just need to get into a better habit of reading ALL THE FINE PRINT before they go accusing a company of discrimination that operates in a free market place especially if it's a company that they don't own shares in, sit on the board for or are not currently negotiating buying out the ownership of that company.

eHarmony and the rest of the online dating services are what you make out of them. You can only get out what you put in. Case in point, I signed up for eHarmony.com and saved a few bucks by using an <a href="http://onlinedatingmatch­es.com/eharmony-promotional-co­des-for-november-2007/37/">eha­rmony promotional code</a>. I was told by several people that eharmony was not the right place to meet quality singles as their services just didn't work. I went ahead and signed up and in about 5 months of meeting "ok" guys, I met my current boyfriend on there. He isn't "the love of my life", but at this point in time, I will take what I can get.

My point being: Stop being so picky and like the old song goes: If you can't be with the one you love than love the one your with.

I messed up that hyperlink. It should have read: eHarmony promotional codes

...their fucking TV ads just make me wanna smash the set!

The people in their ads are just creepy!