What are the chances that dad took a good sober look at reality in his early forties? What if he didn't like what he saw? Suppose he just had enough of trying to satisfy a bitter wife and hew two self-obsessed kids?

Suppose a prime job transfer and a good-looking younger woman showed up at about the same time? Who could blame him for taking a chance at a better life? Carpe diem!

Yup.

~~~however me thinks in this scenario the divorce happened after the kids left home as adults.

Sometimes the kids "leave home" but still come back regularly for money and drama.

...this morning's drama, my youngest decides to grace me with her presence after several days AWOL, and eats my broccoli cheese caserole left overs i had saved from yesterday's dinner and was looking forward to for today's lunch. three weeks ago drama was my oldest met monroe muffler and free enterprise. they crashed her car test driving it for repairs. after insurance battles, she finally gets a check for 1000 less then replacement value (1000 less then kelly blue book) but their insurance company wants to total the car. then monroe muffler demanded 500$repair costs for totaling her car doing the repair. I went to see Monroe with her, they dropped the demand, but, didn't fail to call her several days after and asked of they can remove the parts they put in. i asked which parts, the four spark plugs or the plenum chamber you said you cleaned? monroe muffler wanted to take her engine and sell it on the after market, even though their insurance company totaled the car, demanded the title, and wanted to tow the car. This is like the fraud rip off Olympics and only her daddy stood between the poor girl and the wolfs. (Fuck it , I wish this were the dark ages, there'd be some Monroe Muffler employee body parts being sold via Romania, including the head of the local manager).

Can you sic HER insurance company on theirs? This is the only way I got the money for a bumper skin that needed replacement when I got rear ended in Texas.

The guy was driving with temporary plates and minimal insurance. The deal there is that you make a payment to Jerkboy's used cars and they give you a new temporary plate every month (because then you can carry less insurance and the dealer can repo the car more easily). Yes, it is illegal.

Sadly, this fellow had rear ended five other people in the previous year, and as soon as my accident was reported, they cut him off. Then they tried to tell me that they wouldn't pay because he wasn't covered any more...yadda yadda yadda. It was all bullsh** of course.

My insurance agent went to their office and sat there until HIS former agent came in and served him with a summons so small claims court...problem solved.

Did you ever wonder what would would happen if you "stayed together for the sake of the kids" and split up only after they were all grown and out of high school? Here's your answer!

Daddy didn't send her and the grandkids presents this year. Do you think it's time to break it to daughter dearest that Mommy was Santa Claus for all these years?

Just wait until miss goldie honeytrap starts buttering up the family and sends her gifts of clothing four sizes too small.

Great thought about the gifts from the golden hottie!

Wonder what dad's will says by now, and who his insurance beneficiaries are. People don't always "remember" to change those things.

I am also concerned with what happens when miss goldie honey-something realizes that dear old dad is going to either die or go senile on her a few years before she can even think about retiring. Will she deposit the old galoot back on his ex-wife's doorstep?

tonto_goldberg:

Wonder what dad's will says by now, and who his insurance beneficiaries are. People don't always "remember" to change those things.

There once was a guy at my company I didn't know personally who died and had forgotten to change the beneficiary on his pension and on his insurance after he divorced #1 & married #2. Boy was #2 mad!

Another guy retired & found out too late the ex was entitled to part of his retierment, because they'd been married like 30 years.

were already graduated from college, right?

i would guess its more likely he's in his 50's

they should like greedy kids - college is paid for, but still obsessing over the gravy train.

the entitlement mentality.

...and envy. nothing brings out the demons like money. nothing. and for some reason, i don't know why, but American women seem to feel entitled to all possessions of the men in their lifes. If they served dinner once in the year that daddy made is first billion, they feel entitled to $500 million. Hell, mine even wanted me to take out a mortgage to her fictional half so that I keep paying her money in perpetuity. When I explained it to her, she gave me the deer in the headlight look. This is someone with TWO degrees.

The letter starts out that dad and mom got divorced "several years ago". The next comment is that LW and brother were "both adults" (OK, even though the tone of the letter is not adult, it's what she wrote). Near the end she mentions "us and his grandchildren". So he has grandchildren with his quietly seething daughter and maybe more with her brother.

So yes, he's likely in his 50's now. Maybe he should get in a witness protection program or something so he can have a new name, address, and phone number. Otherwise, seething daughter is going to pounce on miss goldie honey-something as soon as dad dies, and demand "her" money.

It's miss goldie honeytrap to you.

Actually, T, your post surprised me. It doesn't sound like you. Not judging, just saying. Were you just trying to be provocative, or is there something you'd like to get off your chest? ;)

...he'd like to get off your chest, without strings attached. your bra?

As T would say, Nyuk, nyuk, nyuk.

Pay your daughter the money you owe her. She has earned every penny.