One thing I get fired up about is women making a fuss because their significant other watches porn. Men are, in large part, sexually wired, and unless you're prepared to have sex whenever we want it (which you probably aren't), we'll take care of it in other ways, and we like to do that with visual stimuli. We can't be expected to go out of our way to find porn with ugly women; and frankly, we wouldn't want to. We have no control over what porn stars look like, we just want it for a moment to do what we have to do. I would never want my girlfriend or wife to look like a porn star--they aren't especially attractive, but they're just doing their job. If you're concerned, next time you catch him at it, take control of the situation and show him that you're just as good as the girls in whatever smut he was watching. Cheers!

There are some beautiful porn stars out there but i, for one, am grateful that my wife doesn't have a couple of beachballs glued to her chest instead of real breasts. Mind you, the longjohns and the nightcap are a bit of a turnoff. It's hard to get some women into sexy lingerie isn't it ?

Women can console themselves with the thought that about 20% of those porn 'stars' will most likely be dead in 3 years.

I agree! Porn actually saves our marriage.... there are day I'm sooooo tired and I just can't... My huband will grab a video from under our bed, plug it in and do what he's gotta do. I don't feel guilty for rolling over and getting rest and he doesn't feel guilty pressuring me. And sometimes I wake up in the process, get turned on, and I give him round 2. Bottom line, this is your husband, not a criminal... so don't treat him like one!

porn can be a relationship saver if you know how to work it. it saves me from having to jump is bones when there's no way i'm gonna be in the mood for it. also, it gives us some ideas to use for OUR bedroom. and it gets us to talking about what we like, don't like, etc. which can then turn into a great "State of the Union" talk. it's awesome that way. :)

too many american girls have been taught that porn is bad and sex is REALLY bad. so they get all these mixed messages. here's the deal: men are VISUAL creatures. sex is a way they show love, but they also know the difference between getting off and consumeating your relationship. women can't do that. we're all about the consumation. him getting off is no big deal. you don't like the porn? then take some sexy photos of yourself and have him wank off to those.

if he's addicted, that's another animal. addictions need to be treated very carefully and have NOTHING to do with YOU. NOTHING YOU DO will help him. that is, unless you can get him into therapy. but even then, it has to be b/c HE wants to do it.