Oh, for Pete's sake...

If you're weirded out about your husband watching porn (which is no big deal, and yes even women like porn and especially written porn), then give him his own show to look at. Get the digital camera, put on something sexy, and hand it to him.

He'll have the time of his life, I assure you. And you might just lighten up a bit.

I don't know any happily married guy who woud not just love watching his wife on a private video. Do we expect it to be like a "pro"? No. We expect it to be like our wives, the women we love, the women we sleep with and lust after. The ones who take no back seat to the occasional glmpse of porn.

I agree. It's harmless unless he's dwiddling away grocery money online. Rent a video and watch it by yourself to figure out if your insecurities lies with him watching or just the unknown. My husband is the best in bed... and you better believe I'll rather him learn from videos than the ladder. The openess will lift much weight from your shoulders. Good luck!