I disagree with Prudence, and partially agree with the poster who advised calling the police. She is a thief, plain and simple. But before calling the police on her, I would tell her that he WILL do so unless she returns the $200 immediately. And then follow through. And then dump her unless she has a truly transformative repentance. He should consider himself lucky that he had the chance to find out who she really is before he married her.

Agreed for the most part. However, calling the police on her is a bit extreme. She didn't kill someone, she found a wallet and kept it. Wrong, yes...but again, calling the cops is extreme. I don't think threatening people while knowing you won't follow through is dumb. So, saying "I'm gonna call the cops if you don't return it" is lame since he probably wouldn't call anyway. Enough on that point.

If I were in his position I'd take the wallet from her and return it to the police myself. If my significant other had taken the money out, I'd probably replace it myself. All I can do is think of myself in such a position and how angry I'd be at myself and how violated I'd feel if someone felt entitled to my money. If I couldn't get the wallet (even w/o the cash) from her I'd walk away right then and there.

On that note: "finders keepers, losers weepers" doesn't actually hold up under most circumstances. It does if the property is determined to be "abandoned." I'd be hard pressed to believe that a judge would rule in favor of the gf by calling the wallet abandoned (this is why you should file a police report if you lose your wallet).

And oh yeah, I'd dump her. The key to Prudie's response was along the lines of "to your knowledge she hasn't done anything like this before." That's reassuring. What has she done that bf doesn't know about...Prudie: If a person keeps someone's money b/c they "need it" that person is a thieving, dishonest cad. I'd dump her faster than she could get the credit cards out of my wallet.

I'm not saying what she did was right - And, as Prudie said, that he should try to put it into the perspective for her that if she were the one that lost the 200 dollars she would want it returned. And also to express dissapointment in her descision to keep the cash. And, yes it would be something he should keep in mind when making and kind of longer term commitment descisions. But to say that she as a human being is always going to make the right choice, and is never going to be tempted to go against his code of ethics is unrealistic. Re-evaluting her personality, sure, thats in order. But threatening to call the police only prompts her to do the right thing because she HAS to, not because she wants to - which will not help him determine if she really would have done the right thing on her own accord.