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Another great woman lost.
by martingreene
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Yahrzeit (June 28,1973)

They called me at school.

Gandma had died

At the nursing home, they said she had

Died in her sleep.

The last time I visited her,

They had her velcroed her into a wheel chair.

They always die in their sleep.

The last time I saw her at home,

My parents' home, on the sunny terrace,

She said "I'm no good, I'm no good anymore."

I told her I loved her, and look How we were talking.

"You're better than Good,” I said."You're my grandma.”

They had to put her into the home.

She had fallen in the bathroom,

They had found her on the floor,

They could not lift her,

They had no choice, My parents.

They never last long when they

Are sent away.

The place smelled of tomato soup

And urine.

How often do they get bathed?

They are just fine here, Don't you worry.

On June 28, I don't know the Jewish day,

I don't even care, I light a candle that comes In a nice little glass.

Sometimes I have a drink in The little glass I last used

To remember my grandma, who Died on June 28, 1973,

Of natural causes.

Martin Greene, c 2/18/02

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This morning, at 5 am, my mother, her daughter, died of heart failure at a hospital, being treated for internal bleeding, age 97. It is so hard.I took hours for tears to come. I have to do a job.

Our sincere condolences, martin,
by Lunesta

dear friend. I'm sure everyone who posts here regularly, or used to, knows how close & devoted you are to your wonderful parents. I know that Mom has been failing for a few months now, and that you were totally there for her, in your customary way. Our love & thoughts go out to you & to your family with hopes that everyone can get there in good time for whatever services you will now put together. A special hug to your Dad, who will soldier on, but with such a huge gap now in his life. The image of them "sitting on the couch together, holding hands, telling each other I Love You every night" after dinner will remain with me always. As you sit shiva the next few days, my dear friend, please know that we, your friends from the PoemsFray, are sitting there with you.

"Kou rah yio"as the Greeks say, and as I have wished you, other times before. All the Greenes are in my thoughts & prayers today. As ever, yfa, "L."

Re: Our sincere condolences, martin,
by Lunesta

Putting names with the words, martin's parents are / "were" Ethel & Louis Greene. R.I.P., Ethel, beloved mother & grandmother. Brooklyn will not be the same without her!

Re: Our sincere condolences, martin,
by martingreene
Thank you Lunesta. Slate Poems Fray is where I live, part time, Getting arrangements done for the Wednesday obsequies.
Re: Another great woman lost.
by MaryAnn

Martin, although your mother lived to the age of 97, I know it's still hard when your mother dies, no matter how long she lived. Please accept my condolences, Martin, and offer them to your father as well.

I'm sure you and and your father will do a fine "job" of seeing your mother off.

Mary Ann

Re: Our sincere condolences, martin,
by Lunesta

(((((martin))))).

Talk later, L.

Re: Another great woman lost.
by martingreene

Thank you Mary Ann. These days, she would have had at least an MA in lit. But she was the go-to girl at her office job. She was, as was my grandma, brilliant. As my cardiologist says, "you got good genes."

Thank you. Love, Martin

P.S. Who knew how expensive it is to open a grave, never mind tolls to New Jersey? And who cares?

I am so sorry to hear this,
by Angel
Martin. Please accept my condolences and my wishes that you will find peace and solace in sweet memories of her.

Angel
Martin, I am glad you were blessed with a grandma like that.
by NoStar

My Mom's dad died two years ago. He was one month shy of 97. It's nice having those kinds of healthy long-lived genes. I swear most of the best parts of who I am came from him.

Long after your grieving, I pray that your memories of her and the knowledge that her genes are in you will keep you strong and bring you joy.

Re: Another great woman lost.
by LaurieAnnM

Oh martin, I am so sorry to hear of this.

What a lovely way to give tribute to her.

Shalom, friend.

Condolences from Jerusalem
by White_Rabbit
Shalom Martin, I barely knew any of my grandparents and for many years was not close to my mother. I have to connect to this emotionally in other ways -- largely through having lost my mother to lung cancer at 70 and long before, having seen as a child so many of my relatives on my mother's side die of old age and disease. Sometimes it seems as if my childhood was one long procession of funerals and accompanying family reunions. I am very sorry for your sake. I understand that there is a way of grieving in the Jewish community, and reading about it, it makes sense to me. Make use of it. Better yet: if you can believe it, understand that this is not the end. I think about such things all the time, but in Jerusalem, one is almost forced to. wr ()()
P.S.
by White_Rabbit
You say in your poem that you don't know and don't care about the Jewish date of your grandmother's death, but when I return home, I have a book that will tell me. "Watch this space." -- wr ()()
Re: Another great woman lost.
by Artemesia

Martin..
Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss of your mother. One great comfort that you must have is that you shared life together for so long..That you had her love here and she had yours here for so long. My condolences are for your father also, and all the Greene family that has gathered to remember her and mourn together. You are fortunate in the sweetness that she has left behind. That will stay with you forever.
A

Re: Another great woman lost.
by Galatea

Dear Martin,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mother. My heart will also be with your father for the loss of his wife and the rest of your family and her friends.

From your posts here on The Fray I know how lucky you all were/are to have each other's love and warmth and can only imagine that is an extra comfort now.

Take care,
Galatea

Re: Another great woman lost.
by martingreene

Thank you. Where is everyone? A few months we had a Fraymeet at the Algonquin hotel on 44th Street, Manhattan. Oh the logistics...

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