Re: Um, if you want to do the dance...
by
Chasmosaur
12/18/2007, 3:02 PM #
No, I didn't answer my own question.
You advocate - in your words - "keeping your legs shut". That sounds like advice for women to me.
Sure, we can buy condoms, but it can be difficult for us to get the guy to wear them if he doesn't want to. Or if he does, they can tear or even slip off. Hence, the responsible, sexually active girl finds a secondary method of birth control. Birth control pills are the easiest and most reliable option (though, honestly, not a personal favorite of mine).
(I get your vibe on personal responsibility - I'm all for that too. And I'm not trying to be argumentative - I'm honestly trying to figure your position on male vs. female responsibility here.)
So are actually advocating guys being sexually responsible for pregnancy, as well? Because your language makes it *sound* like you expect women to not engage their sexuality at all if they want to be absolutely, positively sure they won't have a child. Are you saying guys will be guys, and it's expected for them to proverbially sow their wild oats, but women shouldn't do the same?
Because you can talk about $5 boxes of condoms all you want. Women's birth control options tend to be more expensive. The pill, spermicidal jelly, diaphragms/caps/shields that have to be used w/ spermicidal jelly - these are all far more expensive than condoms on a regular basis. (I won't even go into IUD's - they are too problematic and probably shouldn't even be considered in late teenaged women.) I have yet to meet a college aged guy who will contribute towards his girlfriend's pill prescription costs.
And that's assuming some men will wear condoms willingly once they and their partners have been tested for VD's/AIDS. I remember one ex-boyfriend from my late-20's who - after we were both tested and clean - felt I should go on the pill (instead of using an alternative form of birth control that was slightly less reliable) so he didn't have to wear condoms. He wanted sex, he didn't want kids, but he didn't want to wear condoms to make absolutely sure we didn't have kids. How is that responsible?
Abstinence is the wrong answer. Affordable, level-playing-field birth control is a better answer. That's all this issue before Congress does - helps level the playing field for young women who don't necessarily have insurance coverage to keep the costs of the pill down. Because both your grandmother's heart medication and birth control pills can cost too much.