It would take away a job from someone who really needs one. His trust fund DOES contribute to the economy.

Of course, doing some volunteer work would be nice.

Rather than just taking some job, better yet, start a business that maybe down the line employees others.

He should give his trust fund to charity (or to me) and learn to work for a living like the rest of us.

people or maybe just use his money to buy female hookers and male prostitutes. In both cases it is a filter down effect.

Both are endorsed by the Republican Party!

seriously though, I think Prudie's a bit off on this one. So what if he doesn't want to work? I don't either. I'd like some ease myself. Id rather swim in a heated pool, take classes at the local university and bang an amiable wife, or failing that, the maid. It doesn't make him spoiled. Half the work done is work that shouldn't be done, as its just plain destructive. Should he get a job as a claims administrator for a health care company? The richest one of my sibs made his money as a tobacco lobbyist, would that be better than hanging around town?

His life doesn't need a body of work to justify it. She sounds like she just wants people to help her serve her needs, forgetting that other people are as real as she is, and may not want the same things she does. God help him if he displeases her, she'll go for half the trust fund and bitch about how he is morally inferior to her. Buddy, if I were you I'd take my amiable, lackadaisical ass to some other girl but this one.

My first wife was an ambitious accountant from a poor family, I was a lazy science teacher who will probably inherit a portfolio large enough to cover everything a few times. It didn't work out. I was no prince, especially near the end, but I was a pretty loving, good and tolerant husband for the first five years, until I got tired of being screamed at and her bedroom politics. Take it from me pal, run.

It's ok that she banged someone else, but she shoudl shut up about it. Just that she's considering telling him about it says more about her than him. She needs power, even if its just the power to hurt his feelings, and his pleasures (the sports team). I hope my next wife (if at all) is more self and other aware than this woman, and less of a narcissist, too.

Seriously, how many people would work if they didn't have to? I love what I do, so I would continue to work even if we won the lottery. But I know my husband would drop his job in a heartbeat and I see nothing wrong with that.

It depends what you consider work to be. Most people need to accomplish things in order to have high self-esteem. Granted you can get some of that from learning to fly a plane, picking up a foreign language, etc., but you'll notice there aren't a lot of truly rich people who choose to do nothing. They run companies (even if it is part time), work with charities, etc. It might not be the job you have now, but it is some form of work.

People who win large sums of money and quit their jobs have a dismal track record. Most burn through the money in only a few years--which could well happen to trust-fund boy from the letter, unless he inherited serious money. There's a couple of reasons for that: 1) Many people have difficulty appreciating the value of money they haven't earned; thus they don't budget it wisely, and 2) A life of complete leisure means unlimited opportunities to spend money. Most of us spend much less during the week because we're working, but on the weekends the bills really pile up.

He should at least do volunteer work or SOMETHING, and it sounded from the lletter as if he wasn't doing much of ANYTHING to contribute to society.

i think selling hookers is a very good way for him to make a living and removes hte hard part with women wich is trying to make them happy just to get into there pants. I think male prostituts are disgusting thouh so none of theose.

Exactly.

The letter writer pretty much set up her boyfriend has having no drive or ambition at all. If he is lucky enough to be able to not have to work for a living, then he has to answer what is he living for?

Finding his passion, learning for the sake of learning, travel, charity work, having a family etc or is he happy imitating a slug and ever getting off the coach and the X-box.

TO WHOM does he have to answer? YOU?

I think that he should do whatever the hell he wants to do as long as it's legal. It doesn't make sense that with money like that, you should have to do anything. We have to work--for MONEY. It seems to me that anyone who has a big problem with him being in a self-induced vegetative state may just be jealous.

And as for her, she should just leave! For everyone's sake.