Re: All for birth control if....
by
Rainbirds
10/23/2007, 10:57 PM #
I didn't say medical "necessity." I said "emergency." An emergency situation could be, say, I was in a terrible car accident, I need sedatives and surgery, but they'll probably have to lose the baby because of the drugs. Okay. I won't be happy about it, but I'll deal. And obviously, it's up to the woman, so the relevance of her being married or having other children (and facing the possibility of losing the ability to have children in the future) is on her. If I'm facing the possibility of losing first my baby and then my life, and I insist that medical professionals do everything possible to save my child, then they should. If I'm in a position where I'm unable to consent to any procedure, and I don't have a spouse/parent/etc. available, then doctors would probably choose to try to save my life above saving the baby.
Remember as well...one of the leading causes of death for pregnant women is murder, frequently by boyfriends or husbands who either don't believe that they're the father or don't want the responsibilities of parenthood. Obviously, a woman's first impulse should be to LEAVE such a relationship, but many of them don't. This should be construed as an emergency. Your life is in imminent danger. If my choice was between having an abortion and being stabbed to death and dumped in a river, well, I'll call the clinic.
If you see above that I keep saying, "the woman thinks, the woman wants, the woman says," and so on, it's because "the woman" gets pregnant. One, individual woman. Not a married or partnered unit, nor some vast female collective. The real question is whether or not each individual woman should be able to make this incredibly personal decision for herself--a decision that really only affects her physical and mental well-being. Go to postsecret.blogspot.com sometime...almost every week, someone posts a "secret" in the veins of, "I'll never forgive myself for having an abortion." Ususally, the next "secret" is something like, "I should have had an abortion" or "I'm glad I had an abortion." No woman can claim to speak for all women, but I believe here that society really needs to err on the side of allowing this to be an individual, personal decision.