This situation is outrageous. Children must be taught to help around the house from a young age because they are part of the household and need to pull their own weight. Do they eat off of dishes, walk on floor, and use the bathroom? Then they need to help clean it (especially a highschooler). This poor disabled woman spoiled her child and this is what she gets. Also, her daughter now has an attitude of entitlement which will not help her at all in the future. Since the situation is so far gone, the mother should charge her rent, stop paying for her daughter's clothes, toiletries, and cell phone and use the money to pay for a cleaning service. (I bet the girl will learn how to help at home really fast). I really fear that the US is raising a generation of spoiled brats who have no notion of how to take care of themselves or eventually their own families.

I don't agree with your response Prudie. This 17 year old girl is being completely selfish. Her mother probably did everything for her family and now she needs the help. It doesn't take a whole lot of time to do the things that are asked of her. Her "friends" will understand and maybe a true friend would pitch in and help to speed up the chores.

I have a 21 year old daughter with two small children now living back with me and because she did get so used to ME doing EVERYTHING it has been a constant battle to get her to help around the house.

Please remember that this is the BOOMARANG generation. They will return and will not have learned anything if not taught early.

I absolutely agree with you Lisa.

I totally agree with Lisa. I could not BELIEVE Prudie's response. I guess that makes me a slave driver, since my 10 year old daughter makes is expected to and DOES, I might add; clean and vacuum her room once a week; set & clear the table; cook one dinner a week; sort her dirty laundry; put and away and hang up her clean laundry; clean out the cat box every night; in addition to fulfilling her responsibilities to her swim & soccer teams, AND keeping her grades at As&Bs. As she gets older, she gets more responsibilities. It's my duty as her mother to teach her how to multi-task NOW, so when she's away at college, she will be able to cook, clean, keep her grades up and play.

I agree with what Lisa suggests should be done. Remind this girl that at 17, their legal, parental responsibilities are only to feed, clothe, provide shelter and educate this girl until she's 18; then do ONLY that. Since she's 17, a lot of the burden may already be off the parents, legally..I think it varies from state to state. Cut off her cell phone, luxury items, computer usage--if she doesn't help pay for the computer, she doesn't have access to it. Needs it for school? Go to the library, or use her own money to get one. I bet all that brat needs is a dose of reality to straighten her tush out. Also, since she may be only a minor child you may want to check out if you can legally take this girls paycheck. I know in Texas the parents DO have the right to take a minor childs pay..my parents did it to me when I turned 15 in an attempt to teach me how to budge my money. (But that was 26 years ago, laws may have changed.)

I agree with all of you. That girl is selfish! This girl has no excuse for her laziness. I am 17 myself, my mother has fibromyalgia and my father had cancer and both work as teachers, so niether of them can really do much around the home. I work 20 hours a week, have at least 5 hours of homework a night(including two AP courses) and I still have time out of my hectic schedule to do my chores and socialize. That girl needs to learn to suck it up and deal with her responsibilities because the "real world" is more percarious balancing act than just high school.

Amen

I agree!

As I wrote in the other thread.

Shame on you Prudy.
Shame on you Cinderella girl.
I think Ms Prudence needs to go back to school.
The girl is 17 and does NO chores?
She sounds like a SELFISH, spoiled BRAT.
Needs a wake up call.
Life is life, it doesn't matter if she goes to school and has a job, that is half the country. Life gets harder.
Life holds responsibilities, and living in a home requires chores be done. Helping her mother is her duty, how ungrateful.
And she probably is not paying for board or food (doesn't matter the age) but her mother is providing for her.
So that would show another dimension of how self absorbed Cinderella girl is.
What is Cinderella's contribution to the FAMILY?
Nothing?
She just TAKES advantage of the the benefits ( and complains about how put upon she is) but cares very little about the most important thing in life, people and family.
Her mother was not asking for a compulsive cleaning, just some help. What the ---- is wrong with this kid?
Cinderella girl will reap what she is sowing.
She will get back what she puts out.
It's sad to hear that the mom has to put up with this, but really the mom let her get away with some form of this behavior early on.
Wake up people. Be the PARENT show authority.
The kids are not over the parents!!!!!!

Way to go solaris17! You are one of a very few. Good luck to you.

I love how this article has stirred up so much.

I hope Cinderella girl reads every word of it. Our children today have no morals or values. What happen to parenting?