You don't understand how a Sunburn works. There are reasons it's such an effective anti-ship missileand the geography and infrastructure of the Gulf negate many of them. It has to do with flight profile and range. And the Gulf itself is a good deal smaller than you think. A nuclear weapon detonated anywhere there would have side effects for the countries involved. Nearby oil platforms (and there are always some nearby) would suffer heavy damage, not to mention radiation contamination ashore. And if four or five SSBNs were then to surface and launch a retaliatory strike, that would easily take the place of collateral damage. Even losing an entire carrier strike group wouldn't be the end of U.S. presence in the Gulf, let alone the end of America. And our retaliation could easily include ICBMs, which Iran knows perfectly well. You also forget that Saudi Arabia will be just as upset as we will if Iran attempts to close the SoH. They get their oil out by that road, too. Will Iran risk a war with the Arab states? Probably not, and not soon, in any event.
Besides, a concealed nuclear weapon aboard a fishing dhow or delivered via FAC/FIAC tactics would be infinitely more cost effective than refitting every Combattante and Vosper in Iran's fleet to carry the SSN-22. Have you ever seen a Sunburn canister up close? I saw them when I went to Vladivostok. They're enormous! Not an inconspicuous weapon by any means. They'd be visible to our satellites and tracked.
Perhaps you're right that Iran is striving for nuclear power status, and not merely a peaceful source of energy. Who can blame them? Looking at North Korea, India and Pakistan, then looking at Iraq and Afghanistan, I'd conclude that nuclear status means immunity from invasion while the lack thereof invites it. And if Iran does want to become the major player in the Gulf, doesn't that make engagement that much more vital? Where are the offers of a light-water reactor, like we've (twice) agreed to give North Korea? Where are the trade agreements like we gave China? Foreign policy does not consist solely of sticks, after all. Carrots are just as important, and in many ways, far more effective in the long run. Sticks should be used after carrots fail.
Also, looking back at Iran before we decided that they were evil and surrounded them with our military, they were eager to engage with the West and modernize their culture. Student movements were flourishing and chipping away at the foundations of the theocratic half of Iran's government. All we had to do to nudge Iran towards Western-style democracy was... nothing. They were headed there without our help. Bush sacrificed that ideal situation for a mere soundbite, perhaps not even realizing the implications of what he was saying. I see Ahmadinejad as the direct result of our foreign policy. He never could have gotten elected without popular fear of the U.S. as his ally, and I can't see his rule lasting much beyond our threat of invasion.
I suppose that I, too, could spend my days dreaming up nightmare scenarios and then reacting in the real world as if they were inevitable. Like an army of Iranian Killbots programmed to conquer the entire Middle East. What about the Killbots? However, I'd prefer to realize that the Iranians are people, that they desire many of the things that the rest of us do and that they react much like the rest of humanity does when threatened. I might also remember that Iran is a sovereign nation with the right to self-determination, and that just because someone wants something that we might not want them to have, doesn't necessarily make them out to get us. At some future time, they might attack us. I might personally die in that attack, or in the war that follows. Nevertheless, I cannot condone hostile action against Iran right now. On every level, the urge to preemptive action is irrational and driven by fear. There are still so many options we haven't entertained, and others yet that we refuse to entertain, merely because statecraft and statesmanship seems to be dirty words under this Administration.