since i first read of Sophie Currier and her plight to test/lactate, something bugged me about the story. Lithwick raised good questions, but my bugginess runs somewhat askance to her points made.
full disclosure: this is almost impossible to believe, nearly more impossible to achieve-- but i've been lactating for 18 years, almost non-stop. (there are three 3-week intervals between weanings and births accounted for in that span of time.)
i have a lot of children, have breastfed all of them to toddlerhood (my oldest is 27) and tandem nursed a couple of them. (a practice i would not recommend except under... well... exceptional circumstances.)
i was a breastfeeding counselor for 8 years and a breastfeeding advocate/ activist for many more. 15 years ago when a breastfeeding woman got kicked out of the Toledo Art Museum for nursing her baby (seated on a bench, facing a painting, with her back to the other visitors) i was part of a large crowd of women staging a breastfeeding nurse-in at the museum that resulted in the Museum articulating a policy allowing breastfeeding to take place in the exhibits.
activism notwithstanding, it's been years since i mistook my sisterhood in the human race as permission to ask pregnant women if they planned to breastfeed. it's been years since i tried to convince anyone "just to try it. you'll never be sorry."
disclosure time is over. doesn't it seem like i should be so supportive of currier's breasts and her intent to not suffer engorgement/ infection? i'm not. so, what the hell is bugging me about this story?
first thing bugging me: harvard med school doesn't interest itself in statements from the American Academy of Pediatrics. here is the AAP policy statement on breastfeeding, issued in 1997. seems harvard med school has yet to see it: <link>
The AAP concludes its statement on breastfeeding such: Although economic, cultural, and political pressures often confound decisions about infant feeding, the AAP firmly adheres to the position that breastfeeding ensures the best possible health as well as the best developmental and psychosocial outcomes for the infant. Enthusiastic support and involvement of pediatricians in the promotion and practice of breastfeeding is essential to the achievement of optimal infant and child health, growth, and development.
[no wonder so many pediatricians suck at supporting breastfeeding. (it's too pun-able to pass up.) they weren't allowed to pump during the test, making them bitter and unsupportive. ]
but there's more bugging me. sophia currier does seem like an entitlement junkie.
some of us have managed to breastfeed with the outright disapproval of ignorant pediatricians, continual sidelong glances of uncomfortable inlaws, dismissive comments from non-breastfeeding mothers like "i wanted my body back", and strangers asking about a nine month breastfeeding baby "how long will you nurse her?" (best answer, "about five more minutes.) some of us have refused to nurse in filthy ladies rooms, have never purchased those ridiculous nursing capes, have never flashed a tit in public, nor squirt milk on the guy in the airplane seat next to us.
some of us have practiced public nursing in front of friends, mirrors and husbands to make sure "nothing's showing." some of us have followed the AAP's advice that "crying is a late stage indicator" of hunger and have stopped mid-burger- bite to get a mildly fussy baby latched-on discreetly-- before her crying attracted attention from all over the Wendy's dining room.
some of us have pumped while driving, (another practice i don't recommend) have fibbed to phone contacts that the shoosh-shooshing of a breastpump set on Weapons of Mass Destruction is really the sound of a broken steam furnace or that we're on dialysis.
some of us post to the various Frays with hardly ever a capital letter used, as we've almost always got a breastfeeding baby in our laps. one handed typing is the best we're at. capitals are tougher than they're worth.
some of us are breastfeeding veterans with war stories, dammit. we've earned our breastfeeding chops. we helped to return the American mothering landscape into a moderately breastfeeding culture. we did it, not by asking for special treatment, but by simply expecting to be ignored. (except for that nurse-in. then, we were hard to ignore, but overall, ignoring us was the point.)
sophie currier is making momentary gains while evoking potentially enduring resentments. she's calling undue attention to something that should be a non-issue. she'd have done better by just flipping the on-switch of her mini-travel-pump mid-test, and kept on testing.
i'm glad i got that off my chest.
waltz n capsize