but it brought back a memory of a woman I dated when I first moved out here. She was a Japanese Woman named Shibari.

And when I say Japanese, I don't mean Japanese American, but more of a Japanese ex-patriot.

Anyway, I met here at a job I was working at the time. The boss asked me to show her the ropes, and we got to know each other and we started to date.

After a while, I wanted to have a more binding relationship, but every time I tried to make a solid connection, she would always be tied up at work, tied up with friends, tied up with other activities, etc.

Still, I kept up with her, trying to tie her down to a commitment and she began to spend more time with me. We eventually all but moved in together, but she became increasingly more uncomfortable about the restrictions of our relationship. She constantly struggled against the restraints I put on her, and eventually, the whole thing started to unravel.

It may be her wanting to stay attached to her culture, but more like, as Mo’ Info suspects, there were other men in her life that, emotionally, would draw her away. We too, would be intertwined, she would get phone calls, and get wrapped up in conversations with someone, I later learned, was her ex. The more I tried to hold on to her, but she struggled to be free. Finally, she told me I was holding her down too much, shackling her to a life she didn’t want. She needed out, so she cut the cords and left.

JP

Still feel the knots some times.

I think it is part of becoming a grown man - the whole losing someone you care deeply about and then realizing that it was your fault, or at least, it was probably your fault.

On the plus side - I think your experience makes you especially qualified to rail. So hurry up and get railing already...

If you wanted to torture her, you could have just read her one of your posts.

...growing to do until you get to the point where you realize it's nobody's fault. it just is. aint there aint no more to it.

the way she had me tied up in knots.

JP

and tried to force this one. It would have worked perfect for the dutch boy DP letter, but I got the idea too late, then thought I could craft it to work with Mo's letter.

I hang my head in shame, not what you've come to expect from me.

JP

by the by, you should meet her, Shibari is an accomidating lass.

http://shibari.alyska.net/

We get it dude, you're into bondage.

...all wet with pictures of bonage, bruises and bent over scenarios.

Maybe your problem is you, whether subconciously or not, think of women as creatures that need to/can be tethered and bonded at your will.

Or maybe it's the passive Asian woman steriotype that gets you off and sends your mind to these places. I don't know.

I would like to direct you to many of the BDSM directories online. Perhaps there, you'll find someone more willing to play nice with your 'restraints'. *rolls eyes*

Well, in the words of my husband, "It only seems kinky the first time!"