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Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by coolrepublica
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Reading the replies to this article all I could think was that the most unforgiving comments were from women.

Mrs Currier may very well be trying to tip the odds in her favor by asking for more time to pump-possibly but not likely.

I do know about test taking. If you don't know a subject, no amount of time in the world is going to make you pass a test on it. If she passes her medical exam it is because she knows her stuff.

Do people really think that if she did not know what do when a patient goes into cardiac arrest that the answer would magically come to her if she was sitting in a room somewhere pumping her milk?.

If she wants a day give her a day, as long as she has no access to study material. Give her a day, a week, a month even a year; it would make no difference whatsoever.

Stop being so hard on her because-as a mother of 30 kids-you would not have asked for the extra time on the test even if you had to breastfeed sextuplets.

I gave birth to 2 children and did not make a sound during natural labor with no epidural. Should I expect other woman to be just like me? Are the women who scream, as if her skin was being pulled off of them, cry babies because they don’t have my tolerance to pain?

Mrs. Currier has ADD and dyslexia. That is 2 major strikes against her. I know someone with dyslexia and it is not easy taking test or doing anything that requires writing. When he goes to apply for jobs it takes him on average 45 minutes to fill out the application. He sees the receptionists wondering what is wrong with him. It takes a toll on his self-esteem. Should someone like this not even bother looking for work?

Many of us instead of congratulating Mrs. Currier for making it so far in medical school, are finding reasons why she should not have been allowed to progress this far.

That is a shame! Now I know for sure that Hillary Clinton is never going to be president. Not as long as women have the attitude that no other women iare ever going to be as good as or as deserving as them.

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Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by San

"Many of us instead of congratulating Mrs. Currier for making it so far in medical school, are finding reasons why she should not have been allowed to progress this far."

If that was true, then people would demand she wouldn't get double the time for the test that she already gets.

Good point
by Locke
It does not hurt me in the least bit for this woman to have reasonable accommodations.
Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by Shahinah
Would you like to know why women are less forgiving of Ms. Currier? It's because so many of us have fought so hard to make it on our own without special help, to sink or swim in the workforce on our own talents and merits without having to have things handed to us on a platter. Then along comes someone like Sophie Currier, who demands one handup after another and who whines and sues when she doesn't get exactly what she wants, who demands that everyone else make allowances for her own problems but shows no interest in pulling herself up by her own bootstraps. If she had made it through med school on her own I'd applaud her, the same way I applaud Hilary Clinton for having the guts to take on the male-dominated political machine. But I don't see Senator Clinton suing the Democratic Party to give her two days for a debate when the men only get one.
Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by bsharporflat

Holy crap! Not sure I"ve seen a more self serving post than Shahinah's. Without knowing anything about her, I can guarantee she did not "make it on her own". She had help from society, from family and from caring friends and colleagues. And as an example of a self-made woman, she gives...Hillary Clinton?

Yah right, she would be just as high in the polls running for president if she had stayed single and her name was Hillary Rodham.

All successful people have had help. Its just that some successful people consider it a private club and try to keep others out. They won't offer the small assistance of time to express breast milk for an infant. Very petty.

Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by bagelwoman

Shaninah, so your basic point is, I suffered, therefore everyone should suffer accordingly? Boy, that sounds like progress....Pursuing a lawsuit isn't having something handed to her on a platter. She took a stand that you chose not to take, and she succeeded, and maybe if other women show the same gall in a few years nobody will have to fight that fight anymore. Isn't that the point? Or do you really just want to see all women struggling to climb the same darn hill over and over and over again?

Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by Anse

If you can't understand Shanihah's point, you need to think about it more carefully. Women who have given up or postponed the birth of a child are truly working on the level playing field. The fact that a woman can have a baby should not necessitate the accommodation of maternity in the workplace or on a standardized exam.

Like I've posted before...if two women are competing for the same promotion, is it an injustice to award that promotion to the woman who doesn't need to take time off for baby?

Read your own post, Anse
by Horus

"Women who have given up or postponed the birth of a child are truly working on a level playing field."

They've given up something that's part of their very essence of being...in order to "play on a level playing field?" Level for WHOM?

You need to rethink that one...

Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by Sword_of_Light

Ok, so now let me understand this. She's got dyslexia, which means she should never ever post in these forums, or she'll get idiots bitching about her spelling. And ADD - which means she's easily distracted, and bored by long, drawn out blah blah blah you get the point.

And a kid.

In med school.

She's not asking for more time because she's got dyslexia and ADD, both of which are in the DSMIV, but because she has a child which needs to be fed, and breasts, pesky things, which need to be emptied. And its other women who dont understand her dilema.

So you're all ok with me, a male with ADD and dyslexia, having the same amount of time to take a test, even though I can do without leaking all over the place, nor have to deal with painful swelling and odd hormonal swings. You think this is equality? She and I both have a fair shake? Because I have no idea what all the fuss is about - I, a man, have no problem with her taking more time, because just getting this far with Dyslexia and ADD is an enourmous achievement. Folks without these problems just dont have a clue - I took an extra year on my thesis, had at least one nervious breakdown, and I wasnt in med school. I had a kid, too, but not breasts - if I had to worry about that as well, I would have exploded. No exageration - there'd be a little black blast scar on the pavement where I used to be.

And you women are giving her shit about this?

Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by Anse

They've given up something that's part of their very essence of being

Horus, whose "essence of being?" You mean to tell me women who don't have kids have not embraced the essence of their being? What a lot of emotional rot. My cousin's fiancee is decidedly against having kids...is she some sort of inferior female to you? She's got serious career aspirations. Should she reexamine her goals to incorporate pregnancy, which you apparently think all women should want? Barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen...is that it?

Re: Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much?
by waltz n capsize

i don't hate sophie currier. i suspect her entitlementment demands have very potentially set the progress of the lactating/ working/ studying woman back 20 years.

to lactating women, Sophie Currier is likely to be the new Dan Quayle.

w n c

Why? Here's Why:
by topazz
here, and here, and here. And over here.
Re: Why? Here's Why:
by Sword_of_Light

Your point is what? I dont see the connection that these posts have.

Here, I'll explain.
by Isonomist

Women don't really hate each other, men just keep telling them they do (the posts are all by the same man).

It's not that women hate each other, it's just that in this situation, where women are feeling competitive toward each other, there are those who want to paint it as hate, when in reality, men say and do these kinds of things to each other all the time, and it's just "healthy competition."

In other words, it's a double standard.

Re: Here, I'll explain.
by Anse
But I would like to state that I have had many female friends in my lifetime, and quite a few have said they much prefer the company of men than other women. Most of them say they have a handful of girlfriends, but the guys are much easier to get along with. I'm curious to know if there is any social reason for this, or something else.
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