I don't know when this "we're pregnant!" business started, but it's utterly inane unless the woman is the member of a royal family and is accustomed to speaking of herself with the royal we. LW2, I have news for you: should you and your husband conceive, then "we" will be expecting a baby, but only you will be pregnant.

Calm down. I do believe LW2 is a member of a royal family.

pooham:

Calm down. I do believe LW2 is a member of a royal family.

The family of royal assholes?

granARJ:

I don't know when this "we're pregnant!" business started, but it's utterly inane unless the woman is the member of a royal family and is accustomed to speaking of herself with the royal we. LW2, I have news for you: should you and your husband conceive, then "we" will be expecting a baby, but only you will be pregnant.

My mom gets aggravated at this weird new phrase, too! I agree that it is annoying, but it seems to me that it's just an (albeit awkward) attempt to include both partners in the event. That said, my cousin just had a baby and explained the whole awful ordeal in detail to me (she volunteered the information - I didn't ask). It's most definitely not a "we" event. If I hadn't already decided that that experience is not one I ever care to go through, after her explanation I'm surely convinced now!

So do YOU get pregnant all by yourself? Going into the deliveray room all by yourself? Are you the SOLE parent? You can have your cake, or eat it, not both.

Oma, when the crown princess gets pregnant, will she have stretch marks, food cravings, swollen feet and ankles, distended abdomen, and labor pains all by herself? To quote a certain unemployed Alaska blogger, you betcha. Please take a course in logic before you utter any more nonsense.

Well Oma, if you go thievin' sperm from a used condom, get a turkey baster and go for it, it is possible to get pregnant alone. Theoretically, anyway.

Also, some women and girls do go alone to the delivery room. :(

But in general, I think people who freak out about "we" have issues with masculinity, specifically, the assured masculinity of a man involved in the process of having and raising his kids. And they need to chill out.

All the guys I've ever known to use "we" have been wonderful men, husbands and fathers.

[quote="SpaceCadet"]get a turkey baster and go for it,[/quote="SpaceCadet"]

Isn't this how that 'man' who used to be a woman got its wife pregnant?

I believe the correct terms are "zie" and "hir," not "it," except when a transitioned man wants to be called him and he.

I believe the man who used to be a woman was the one who got pregnant, not his wife. And it was a medical thing. Whatever impregnated him was way more complicated than a regular turkey baster squirt.

omabikeryder:

So do YOU get pregnant all by yourself? Going into the deliveray room all by yourself? Are you the SOLE parent? You can have your cake, or eat it, not both.

No. Just like a man having prostate surgery would have a major impact on both partners, a pregnancy impacts both partners. However, there is no test on earth that a doctor can perform on a man to tell him that the man is pregnant. He could say "We" are having a child, but not "We" are pregnant.

I understand the common usage, but it is a little silly. Once upon a time not so very long ago, there were more euphemisms for pregnant than there were for dead. Some things people just talked around, so no one would figure out how they got that way, apparently. Of course, 100 or so years ago, people never mentioned a woman's "leg", either.

OMG, I SO agree with YOU!!! I phrase bugs me to NO END! I understand why people say it ("We're equal partners" or "We are so in love that we are one") but it just MAKES NO SENSE. You might as well say, "WE ovulated" or "WE ejaculated" or even "We're in labor" -- NOT possible, right? So why "We're pregnant" (actually, SHE'S pregnant) -- what's wrong with "We're having a baby"? At least that's biologically/factually ACCURATE -- and NO it does NOT lessen a man's role in the process.

"You might as well say, "WE ovulated" or "WE ejaculated""

There are ladies who do both, there are ladies who do neither ...

Every lady has a very special bea(WHA?)

Excuse me, I think I was about to burst into a weird song there.

How is "We are having a baby" any more accurate? I wouldn't be having the baby, my wife would. It would then be true to say "We have a child," but that's a different meaning for the word, "have."

"Having a baby" isn't a medical term. Would you be happier with "we will be having a baby"? After it's born, they'll both "have" it.

What say we consult The Restaurant at the End of the Universe for the proper verb tenses here?

When my wife gets knocked up, I intend to say "she's pregnant, I'll be a dad to our child in a few months." Sound reasonable?