I am now 35 but I was the girl who was no longer invited to parties by the cool girls. It really hurt to be picked on and bullied by girls (yes, girls!) for dressing differently and just looking nerdy. Even if the daughter wasn't the one who made the executive decision to exclude the girl or set up the male phone call to rub it in, she was complicit with those activities and reveled in their consequences. That's two points off her soul and shows a deficit in character. I am reminded of the very recent gang rape of the girl at a high school dance by about 10 boys in which a crowd of others watched and apparently took photos as a memoir. They didn't summon help at any point. That's the same thing here. The people who actually did the rape/didn't invite the girl are just as guilty as the ones who watched/snickered in the background. Obviously, the severity of the crimes are different but continued exclusion and bullying can be just as damaging as a rape. The damage is indefinite and parents need to teach their kids that it's ok to not like a kid but they should never bully or support bullying. Can't people just be respectful? Nobody ever teaches their kids NOT to bully, they just teach them how to respond if THEY are the target. We need to teach both ways.