What he's doing is saying that he's a better judge of what's going on in your body than you are, that you are interpreting your physical sensations incorrectly and he is somehow in a position to interpret them correctly.

Is there anything else that needs to be said?

"Is there anything else that needs to be said?"

Pretty well sums it up. He's not stopping the behavior because he enjoys the feelings that he gets from doing it, and dominating her, with a little mindf*ck thrown in for good measure. Huge red flag.

I do the same thing to my wife; I tickle her; she doesn't like it.

Should I seek professional help? Or maybe, it's just tickling and everybody should relax.

You should seek professional help if you are 1) doing it to her every day even when she says stop repeatedly 2) you do it until the point where she pees (or loses control of her body, it's appeared as both in similar letters) 3) you're pinning her down against her will daily for this little bit of torture that you enjoy, and that she doesn't.

Maybe your wife likes it. This LW clearly does not. Tickling has been used as a form of torture so it clearly isn't always 'just tickling'. That's probably why it's also used in BDSM.

Yes, you should. Your wife has told you she doesn't like what you're doing, and you continue to do it.

it's just tickling and everybody should relax.

Exactly the sort of shit that insensitive assholes say. Get help, dude. You need it.

Zarasophist, at the very least, you need to ask yourself why you even want to do something to your wife's body that she dislikes. It reeks of hostility.

at a risk of being condemmed as an insensitive asshole, context is everything here. yes, from time to time I will be presented with a bit of flesh begging to be tickled, i will, and we might play a few seconds of "Stop it", "just one more" game, or even "stop it" , "it's all in your mind" one. and sometimes the roles are reversed.

so did zarasophist mean this, or more like the LW's boyfriend which obviously has SOME issues? i don't know.

As a ticklish man who dealt with your dumb attitude as a child, I recommended to the poster and would recommend to your wife that she hit you, hard: a hard slap in the face, a high heel kick to the shin. And that she repeat until you *get it.* Tickling hurts, IT IS PAINFUL.

You obviously don't have the capacity to understand this via words, and will not understand until you have physical pain inflicted upon you. Have your wife read this advice, and let us know if she hits you to get the message through to you.

and you, my friend, either have not read my post, or ignored it, or is just missing the ability to realize not everyone reacts the same way to any stimulus.

not everyone who is "ticklish" feels immediate pain when tickled. for many people, me and my wife included, tickling is fun until done too much, the limit changes and you need to be able to read your partner to know when it is approaching.

from the LW description it seems her CF is a brute who just happens to use tickling as his preferred methiod of torture.

I had a boyfriend that tickled me after I repeatedly told him to stop. One day it went on a full ten minutes. He stupidly released one of my arms. I pulled back and backhanded him as hard as I could.

Then I told him he was being too sensitive when he got angry. :D

Lovethedoggies, your approach is precisely what I recommend, and it sounds as if it worked for you. Love it!

@ayalonValley -- I should have been more clear; my post was addressed to zarasophist, whose wife has told him that she doesn't enjoy tickling.

When the person doesn't tell you they don't want you to do it - ever - then you shouldn't do it. However, my husband and adult kids and I engage in a little bit of playful teasing, which is sometimes physical. For instance, I might tap my son on top of his head from behind. He'll reach up as I move my arm. This gets repeated till he catches me (whereupon he'll tickle me or simply immobile that arm for a few minutes) or it seems like he's fed up with it. Likewwise, my husband will tickle me once in awhile, but usually on my neck or my leg, because I have told him I don't like to be tickled on my torso. If he discontinued this, after awhile I'd probably wonder why he had stopped.

I suspect Zarasophist's tickling is more along those lines. Pinning her down and preventing her from defending herself on a daily basis is just twisted.

RHWH:

What he's doing is saying that he's a better judge of what's going on in your body than you are, that you are interpreting your physical sensations incorrectly and he is somehow in a position to interpret them correctly.

Is there anything else that needs to be said?

Ahhh it sounds like a good arrangement for the guy. After sex, instead of asking "was that good for you?" he can just declare "that was the best sex you ever had", roll over, and go to sleep. And no worries about fake orgasms. He'll tell you if they were real or not.

My kids know it and they try constantly to tickle it. At times, I think its funny and cute. Then, if they persist, I get really pissed off and scare them with power. They finally tired of the game but once in a while they sneak in a darting finger into my stomach and gleefully proclaim a "coup".

Sorry, I am not seeking help. To be honest, if I actually tried, I don't think anyone would actually book me an appointment if I told them why.

I talked to my wife, she thinks you are all crazy.