It's the old I love everything about him but he inflicts daily abuse on me routine. . Look lady, I'm one of the other guys out there, and I'll be the first to tell you your options are few. I tell my girlfriend this all the time. Incredulously, she'll fire back, "do you think you're going to do better than me?" We stare into each others eyes then begin a long, long embrace filled with passionate kisses, secure in the knowledge that we're both at the tops of our game.

You don't have to throw your guy back just because he's a terrible communicator-- even by terrible male communications standards-- and likely a sadist. Stun guns are both a humane and an effective means of altering bad behavior. Take all them cows out in Oklahoma and such. They walk off cliffs and eat all the neighbor's cud. Little shock puts 'em right back in line. I sense your guy might be headed own one of those paths too, unless you proactively and above all gently show him another way.

i'd always thought they were restricted in some respect

pepper spray is perfectly legal

but communicating verbally, as hard as it may seem, is still the preferred way to sort out different world views.

I've been sprayed in the face with pepper spray and still managed to keep tickling. You don't really need to see what you're doing.

Communicating verbally is the preferred way for the higher order mammals. But what if you're not dealing with one of them?

I used to have 2 of them, purchased after confirming they were legal at the time. I can only find one now, but if I'm someplace I think I might need it, I'll just tell them it was legal when I bought it. I think at worst, all they can really do is impound it. I loaned it to a young female relative when women in her apartment complex started getting raped.

i guess different people have different tolerances.

at various times a 9 volt transistor radio battery and a chili pepper have produced the opposite of pain.

I'm not a brute. If you tasered me in the nuts, you would definitely get my attention.

taser to the nuts, chili pepper up the ass?

Talk about being roused from your Wednesday afternoon slumber.

Put it this way yggy : if you're on a high enough floor there in NYC, you should be able to see my boner from there.