Dear Prudence,

I’m a new comer here. I have some concerns related to the recent thing I did to my boyfriend’s mum.

Currently my boyfriend is doing some training at his home town in Europe and at the same time spending time with his parents, I’m in Asia. Last Sunday was his mum’s birthday, so I sent her flowers that I purchased online. I chose the flowers carefully so that it doesn’t get wrong meaning (you know, like “love you” or romance stuff). It was a multi coloured flowers, small size and I put a simple note saying “wish you a wonderful birthday”. That’s all.

I kind of get an odd feeling from my boyfriend because of that. Well, he text me and said “my mum say thanks for the flowers”. In addition, he also put “crazy”. I just replied jokingly saying “it wasn’t crazy, just a nice thought since she has a great son like you!”

Anyway, he promised to call me later in the evening, but he didn’t. He called me the day after and said he was having dinner with his parents and was too late to call. I was actually mad at him for not at least text me in between to say that he couldn’t call or something. We talked last night, and I asked him about the flowers thing. He said it’s nice of me to do that but it wasn’t really necessary. Then I asked him if he thinks it was too much, and he said yeah but never mind it’s ok, it’s nice of you. He told me that I should have informed him before then my replied was if I told him about my plan he would have said I shouldn’t do it.

We’ve been seeing each other for almost two years now. I met his parents when they come to visit my boyfriend, they seem ok. It was actually almost the same time of the year when they visited last year and on the day of his mum’s birthday they were in a different city and I sent a small birthday cake to their hotel. My boyfriend’s reaction was basically fine and he was not acting strange.

So, what do you think, do you think I kind of pushing it too hard because I sent the flowers or?

Flower

Prudie doesn't answer letters submitted through the Fray. There are instructions under her article of how to submit a question.

Luckily for you, the Oracle has taken on your dilemma.

you're a psycho bitch, reading too much into everything that happens between you and him.

KA

hope that helps

but if your guy is upset over you sending flowers to his mother, he's way too overbearing, or overprotective, or over something. I can't even venture a guess why. Really, it's just stunning.

So far, I think the Oracle's answer is the closest to the truth and it is very much on target. Although, yggy, I think you're on to something, too. KA, I'm not sure you give her enough credit? She can tell something's not right, even if she doesn't know what?

I fear that "flowers" is one of Tonto's phonies - a Slate staffer pretending to ask advice and hoping to get new posts onto the Fray. Consider him/her/it outed. I will not engage such people, since it's such a pathetically transparent ploy that is is laughable.

Hahaha, so obviously fake. I mean, really, who even remembers their own mother's birthday, let alone someone else's? Right? Right?...

No seriously, it has the same fake signs as the rest other than trying to mix it up a little with some improved grammar and not a 'I'm a total dumbass' situation.

Since I'm here...I'd been meaning to ask, does your new site have forums yet or just the blog comments? My office filter seems adept at blocking sites, but I've yet to ever have it block forums if I go there directly and skip the mainpages. Gotta decide what I'm gonna do for this Thurs.

No forums yet. Gotta set that up soon. Cheers!

Prudie doesn't give two shits about the posters here. You can post questions to her here all day & she will ignore you.

This list really piques my interest and I would surely love to see it posted in a different location. In the meantime, anyone who can remember carriage returns and spell correctly, like Flower, should have the brainpower to realize this is not how you submit a question.

I'm sorry, what list are you referring to?

See SmagBoy's response to the question, above.

who doesn't know their own mom's b-day?

KA

what kinda lousy, ungrateful kid are you, anyhow? ;~)

One of a kind.

...Unless that damn clone shows up again.

tribble22:

I'm sorry, what list are you referring to?

I think Spacey was talking about Messy's post in which Messy referred to Tonto's fakes. Perhaps implying that Tonto has a list of fakers/staffers posing as regular posters, or that he's called them out at times? Don't know if that's what she meant or not, though? If so, I think it'd be a cool list, too! :-)