The Herpes issue could indeed get very tricky for Herpes Mary, depending on how pissed off some of her former partners are. In my state at least, if a person has prior knowledge of a disease, and fails to disclose that to their partner or lies about it, and they spread that disease, they can be sued for major money.

I was in this exact situation with my own sister, and I told the gentleman she was planning on bedding. He hasn't stopped thanking me since. In her case, she has HPV, which often has no symptoms in men, and causes cervical cancer in women. And she thought nothing of withholding this. Her actions (or lack thereof) are abhorrent to me, and I refused to let a good friend fall prey to them.

If concerned sister doesn't want to follow Herpes Mary around and warn every man she bats her eyelashed at, remind her of the possibility of a lawsuit. That might work.

WOW! I can't believe that you think it's your business to tell your sister's potential sex partner that she has HPV?! How presumptuous and rude of you to assume that he wasn't going to wear a condom. How presumptuous and rude of you to assume ANYTHING about what they were going to be doing in private.

This sounds like one of those horribly toxic sibling relationships where you've used a 2-cent excuse to take a shot. Let me guess- you're sisters and she's hotter than you? Or maybe you wanted the guy for yourself...hasn't stopped thanking you since? Yeecchh.

I wasn't even planning on responding, but I really must counter the last 2 posters. In my estimation, you made the right move in warning this guy.

You probably struggled with the decision, but HPV is something that he would have carried with him for the rest of his life. That is no joke. I know I'd still be thanking you.

Anyone who responds to tell me how HPV is "minor" and how "oh, pretty much EVERYONE has it" will be saying a lot more about themselves than about me or the top poster. So ... save it.

HPV isn't necessarily chronic, most of the time it goes away on its own. There's a definitive test for it, at least that's my understanding- I get that test every year with my physical, as probably do many women. I maintain that the top poster used a 2-cent excuse to create a 10-dollar drama.

I never claimed that STD's are a joke. Everyone needs to practice safe sex. Getting all up in her friend's business was beyond rude in assuming that he wasn't going to. Why would he need to thank her for anything? Isn't he responsible for his own health?

Her sister has HPV and was planning on sleeping with a guy without telling him. The sister clues him in and SHE"S the bad person? Remind me to never do business with you.

omabikeryder, I'll remind you not to do business with ANYONE (I'm not shouting, there are no italics) without doing your due diligence. Why would you wait to hear some third party gossip about any issue important to your financial, sexual, physical, mental or emotional health??? As as adult it's my responsibility to protect myself in my sexual dealings and it would be downright insulting to me if someone stuck their nose in my personal business and assumed that I wasn't. I'd be insulted if she stuck her nose in and assumed that I was... because either way it's none of her damb business.

Bracip, you're throwing around the word "assume" a lot. Remember what they say about that?

"To witness evil and stand by and do nothing is even more evil."

What they DO say is: ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and ME.

I think it was more like 'all evil requires is for good men to stand by and do nothing'. I am also too lazy to Google it.

Folks, HPV is being found in tonsil and throat cancers now. Which have become an epidemic. This is in addition to the cervical cancers. God bless the woman who told her sister's potential lover. She may have saved his life!

MessyONE, the quote at the bottom of my post was separate from my comment to Bracip. I just threw it in for good measure, but I guess it does look like I'm answering my own question. Oops!

@piquePlace... I'm using the word assume because that's all the nosy friend can do. She of course would be making an ass of herself in that situation. My position is that I would certainly NOT assume anything about another person's sex life, or their habits because it's none of my or anyone else's business. RE:your quote...I certainly HOPE that nosy friend is not 'witnessing' anything. That goes far beyond friendship.