While I agree that the Reverend's reaction is outsized and what he considers "poor behavior" occasionally shows he has no understanding of animals (I don't think a dog bringing you a toy is "bad behavior" in any sense), I have to agree with him in part.
Animals who shred clothing, etc. are really badly behaved.
I have two dogs. They are very friendly and high energy. THey do rush the door when they hear someone coming. I have worked to try to stop the jumping up on people as I know its bad manners, but friends and family who are friendly to dogs sabotage my efforts unwittingly (by petting and acknowledging them while they behaved badly). One is a shedder, but that is not her fault, any more than it's her fault she was born a dog. Why people include drool and hair in "bad behavior" I'll never know. The other is a "bouncer" and it does frighten some people to see 40+ lbs of dog bounding around as if on a pogo stick, even if she's bouncing in another room. They may be a little obnoxious to an outsider, but overall they are well behaved. Lots of training and testing of that training has been done.
I do my best to have them be scheduled for grooming or something when we have guests, but if someone takes umbrage to dogs it's mostly on them to let me know. I am unable to crate them (one escapes and reappears at my side, the other freaks out and injures herself) so if I cannot schedule some appointment for them, guests merely must deal.
Ultimately, it's that persons house and while they should be a good host...most consider pets family members so think of them like a nutso uncle. You may not like to visit him, but he's there. Deal with it.