wow..it seems that when we men ask for advice all we get is more grief. Instead of scolding, berating, and driving guilt down this guys throat (he already said he's not the cheating kind), more practical advice would have been this: have some balls and change regular social plans. Life has already changed due to the baby. Use this situation of the newborn to express a change in plans. People, even relatives, should understand this. It avoids direct confrontation (because not all situations can be resolved this way..that is reality). And this allows your priorities to stay straight (i.e. supporting wife and child, etc)

As for testoterone, man, I appreciate that situation so much. It seems we men are continually being downgraded to animal status when we discuss our own testosterone driven issues that we are truly trying to keep at bay. The last thing we need is to berated for our instinctual drives. Instead, we as men should understand a woman's point of view from their standpoint (not hard to do) and also meet our own needs intelligently (which are not selfish, just human impulses). The smartest choice we have as men is support each other. And when we can't find support, just re-focus and ask ourselves what our priorities are and honor them. For momentary lapses, we must have a personal arsenal of defenses at the ready (mental, emotional, physical..) Or use these impulses to deepen intimacy between husband and wife. There are other ways to celebrate physical love between man and wife so that both are pleased and happy. This is just smart living.

Ah man up, you fricken' sissy!

This guy went to his pregnant wife and TOLD her, "I wanna fuck your sister", then whines to the world that his wife told him it was unwise to try? What a fucking moron! Where does he get off shitting on his WIFE like that?

Getting married means putting a leash on your dick and keeping your mouth shut when you know you might hurt someone's feelings. If you think women don't have the same feelings when they compare their pudgy, balding husbands to the pool boy - think again. Just because they aren't stupid enough to yap about it doesn't mean that women don't have some biology happening, too.

re-read the letter you moron, he say down to talk with his wife about this issue; if you've ever done that you know that isn't what he said. Well spoken wbistak, these American "prudes" are living in a delusional version of the 50's that never actually existed, statistically speaking at least 50% of the people who have responded are divorced.

...illiterate ninny. Aren't you supposed to be in school?

You're a fucking moron, MessyONE, if that's what you interpret to be what he said. That's not the way to speak to one's wife and not the manner in which he presented it considering what he indicated in the letter. She's his wife. If you can't even tell your wife your deepest secrets and your true feelings, what kind of a relationship do you expect and what kind of a life are you living?

wbistak...you are absolutely right. If the roles were reversed...and it was the woman who was attracted to her husbands brother..and she was looking for advice...she would have been portrayed as a saint for being so open an honest with her spouse. Then there would have been some sort of ramblings on about how marriage is a sacred bond, and for her to go to her husband and tell him how she feels is a great way to show she wants to keep it sacred through open communication and effort on her part. Then at that point it would have turned to "well the husband is obviously not paying enough attention to you and/or is not making enough of an effort to make sure your attention is not diverted." It's a shame that when it comes to situations like this....the male seems to be wrong no matter how it's looked at. You made great points...you emphasized the key points is all...and I strongly disagree with the original advice given.