I had short hair from my late teens until I was nearly 20. Never had a date. I grew my hair out and voila! I met a guy. A few years later my mom was berating me about my long hair and that it didn't look very good in her opinion (I had chosen to dress down a little that day) and started talking about how everyone complimented me on my hair when it was short. I stopped her right then and there and said that I was never having short hair again. That was the end of that subject.

What I didn't say to her, but probably should have was that the only people who complimented me on my hair were women over the age of 40 and that I didn't find it such a coincidence that the minute I grew my hair out, I got a boyfriend.

Now, that being said, I know that there are guys out there who do like girls with short hair (my dad is one of them). But, they're so few and far between that I never met one when I was dating. If the short-haired girl wants to keep her short hair, I salute her. If she's trying to meet a guy, maybe she should try the online dating websites so she can expand her playing field a bit and perhaps meet a guy who likes short hair on a girl.

I've had short hair all my life and I NEVER lacked for dates. In university, I could have gone out every night if I'd wanted to.

It wasn't your hair that caused your problem, it was you.

I am a guy, been one for almost 58 years. Dated alot in my younger days. While long hair may be a quick visual attention-getter, an attractive woman is attractive for much more than her hair. She is the combination of her appearance, personality, intelligence, character, senso of humor, etc. And there are many more attention getters. It was her laugh that attracted me to my lady, who by the way currently has short hair, as if it matters.

Unless a woman is looking for a one night stand or short fling with her version of arm candy, any male who would use long hair, short hair to decide if he wants to meet is really not worth meeting.

jburd1:

I am a guy, been one for almost 58 years. Dated alot in my younger days. While long hair may be a quick visual attention-getter, an attractive woman is attractive for much more than her hair. She is the combination of her appearance, personality, intelligence, character, senso of humor, etc. And there are many more attention getters. It was her laugh that attracted me to my lady, who by the way currently has short hair, as if it matters.

Unless a woman is looking for a one night stand or short fling with her version of arm candy, any male who would use long hair, short hair to decide if he wants to meet is really not worth meeting.

Thank you for one of the first sensible and well-thought-out responses to this video!

I agree! I have also noticed that guys who go only for long hair also seem to like stiletto heels and big "racks." Who needs them?

I'll probably catch some flak for this, but it's possible that the short hair is signalling "I'm at the bar for the ladies".

Yes, it's an unfair stereotype that a woman with very short hair is a lesbian. However, in our culture long hair signals femininity and short hair masculinity. Wearing it so short is a flaunting of traditional cultural signals, so it's just possible that on a subliminal level it's a turn off for men.

And I got a vibe from the video that the friend might actually be interested in this woman but wishes she looked more feminine.

Most, if not all, of the Lesbians I know have medium to long hair. I, on the other hand, married for 37 years and quite straight, have short hair, as do many if not most of the longtime married ladies I know.

Does that also mean all guys with long hair are gay?

I had long hair for years and it was beautiful. Nut brown, loose cascading curls, full, healthy. I also went months and months between dates, with only a few real boyfriends in between. My hair may have been noticed, but it certainly wasn't a fail-safe come-hither mechanism either.

So after years of long tresses, I got a pixie cut at the suggestion of my husband (who loves short hair and thinks long hair is just a mess) and I was more than ready for a drastic change hair-wise. Its comfortable, low-maintenance, and adorable. Like Prudie says, I have the right head shape and weight to pull it off. I get compliments from women AND men of all ages. Keep the hair YOU love, and go tell the male co-worker to go piss up a flagpole the next time he mentions it.

I used to date a guy who hated short hair AND blonde highlights on dark hair. One day I got both. Oh sure, he complained for a bit but because he loved me for me and not just for my hair, he got over it.

Any guy who will dismiss a girl because of a haircut is not worth the trouble.

"I've had short hair all my life and I NEVER lacked for dates. In university, I could have gone out every night if I'd wanted to.

It wasn't your hair that caused your problem, it was you. "

Methinks the lady doth protest TOO much; why so mean?

It's the truth. High school sucked, university was great, had short hair the entire time. Evidence that attitude is all, because that's all that changed.

Of course, if you think long hair is the only thing that's ever going to get you a guy, then you're going to live a shallow lonely life and spend a lot of time whinging about the unfairness of it all. I think that's boring, but if it spins your crank, then go for it. Too bad, but not my concern.

SoMerry:

I agree! I have also noticed that guys who go only for long hair also seem to like stiletto heels and big "racks." Who needs them?

Well, hubby went for me in long hair (still does) but I have small boobies & wear tennies, flip flops or mc boots.

so much for that theory.

I wonder.....are women who are attracted to men who are "tall dark and handsome" as contemptable as men who are attacted to long haired curvy women?

I doubt there are all that many men who would flat out refuse to date a woman with short hair. There may be a general preference for long hair and women with long hair may find themselves getting more male attention than their short haired counterparts. And tall men get more women, and so do men with full heads of hair. Are you ladies telling us there are no shorter or balder men that you would ever consider dating? Is there something wrong with women who are attracted to men who are traditionally attractive?

Guys with a preference for long hair are capable of appreciating the beauty of women who look stunning with short hair just as you ladies are capable of appreciating good looking men who are not as tall as you prefer or don't have hair that is as thick as you prefer.

Pogue Mahone 6'-4" with a full head of hair. ;)

pangursperson:

I used to date a guy who hated short hair AND blonde highlights on dark hair. One day I got both. Oh sure, he complained for a bit but because he loved me for me and not just for my hair, he got over it.

Any guy who will dismiss a girl because of a haircut is not worth the trouble.

Did you do it as a test? Do you tend to be a bit passive aggressive? You are saying you ran out and got exactly the haircut your boyfriend said he hated the most.....

Holy crap you're tall, Pogue!

Anyone who has been in a happy long-term relationship can tell you that trivialities like hair length and tit size don't matter in the least. My hair has changed multiple times over the past 23 years The Boy and I have been together, and his hair is rapidly disappearing. It's meaningless.

If Blondie decided to chop her hair off tomorrow (don't do this, it's only an example), her husband might experience a bit of a shock, but she hasn't changed anything that matters and he's a bright enough guy to know that. Besides, hair is a renewable resource.