As a male - My guess is it's your attitude. From your very egotistical approach to your question, I'm willing to bet that on a date you come across the same way, which to many guys is going to sound like you aren't that smart (if you have to tell someone your smart - it has an opposite effect). From there, you don't sound very nice (insulting others that do have boyfriends because they aren't as smart, nice, funny, attractive as you). The guys you are dating want casual sex because people that aren't nice - are not attractive to date. Who wants to spend extensive time with someone that is egotistical, and rude?

I think she's in the wrong city for relationships (Wash DC). Men in these mega-cities tend to be super ambitious in careers and have no time or interest in relationships unless it gets them somewhere socially. I've lived in most major cities around the country and find this is true. Also the men know they can get laid anytime anywhere just purely on a per-capita basis, so why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free at any bar in town?

All my friends who live in small towns were married with kids by 27. Of course there was a small dating pool and few career options to choose from, so men were more motivated to marry young both for regular sex and lack of other options to occupy them.

I'm also wondering whether the men she's dating are intimidated by her accomplishments (look for people similar in accomplishments/education). You can't really tell what her true personality is by her post (hardly anyone on message boards show their real personality).

Agree. Either she's dating beneath herself with guys only looking for hookups or put off by her accomplishments or she's got a personality problem that really turns the guys off. I would guess that at 27 she ought to be able to find someone interested in more than a one-night stand, but it's also quite likely that any of her close friends could tell her (and us) exactly why she's not getting anywhere. The point about location, available prospects, and career options is also valid. I think Pru's suggestion that she ask her friends to be frank with her is probably valid if the friends can tell her the truth and still remain her friends.

I'm with Male-View on this one. I, also being a dude, think that this girl probably has way too high of an opinion of herself and way too narrow of an "acceptable" dating pool, according to her standards. It's all fine and good to have standards, everyone has them, but keep them to rigid and you're setting yourself up to be SOL.

Again, as the OP said, she kind of sounds like a priss, and that's why guys only want to sleep with her, rather than date her. It's pretty simple, all most guys are looking for is a girl that they find attractive and enjoy spending time with. There's always exceptions, but for most normal guys, this is pretty true.

And where does this idea come from that guys get laid whenever they want? The 2-5% of alpha male, super good-looking dudes, maybe. But for the rest of us schlubs, it takes a lot of effort. Especially if you want to have sex with someone you actually like.

The girl never did say she was modest...

Perhaps she treats a date like a job interview?

Doesn't matter how accomplished you are (male or female). Appearing "needy" emotionally is ALWAYS a turn off. That's my guess.