Prudence, Prudence, Prudence... Why do you ALWAYS side for the woman? Why is the man ALWAYS wrong? The guy who masturbates is a healthy male with a healthy appetite for sex. He's just jammed like most every other straight guy out there with a frigid bitch of a wife who doesn't want to put out. AND THIS IS HIS FAULT? Hardly. You use words like "sexual demands" when he never EVER said he demanded anything. She doesn't put out - he takes care of it himself. If he was DEMANDING sex, and she said no, it's rape. So why didn't you accuse him of that, you man-hating harpy? Then you go on to say that his masturbatory style being more pleasurable is what's causing his delayed orgasms with his wife. Why not suggest that she have vagina tightening surgery so that she's not loose as a cow? Why not suggest that she give her "no sex" thing a rest? Why is all the compromise on this issue the man's? I love it - you're just like the Republicans. When they say BIPARTISAN - they mean "DO WHAT WE TELL YOU TO". When a woman says "Let's compromise" she's actually saying "Do what I'm telling you to or else you'll never see my va-jay-jay ever again". I thank the God I don't believe in that I'm gay and don't have to live or put up with C***s like you. I feel sorry for you straight men. No wonder you're all as messed up as you are.

You had me until you moved from "prudie fucked up' to 'all women are fucked up'. That is just prejudice.

Sounds like someone is a little angry here. :(

Why is the woman frigid? Are you not implying there is something wrong with her? Perhaps her man has learned to please himself so well he never bothered to learn how to please a woman? Someone so self focused is bound to miss the point that sex isn't only about them.

Never mind the fact he must be completely bored out of his mind that he has nothing better to do, and everyone knows, bored people are, well, boring. So I'll bet he brings nothing to the marital bed but his expectation of being entertained.

Frankly I prefer a hungry man than one that is completely satisfied.

oooo, straight guys, women are so mean, you should switch teams and you'll never have to worry about sex again.

Hey, I think he very well might get some nibbles! ha

Nice cut'n'paste from some other screed about feeling sorry for straight men.

You sound like one of the few gays who turned that way because of his mother or something.

What an asshole. I feel sorry for anyone you date. Your brain is obviously 'loose as a cow', dip shit.

edensin:

Sounds like someone is a little angry here. :(

Why is the woman frigid? Are you not implying there is something wrong with her? Perhaps her man has learned to please himself so well he never bothered to learn how to please a woman? Someone so self focused is bound to miss the point that sex isn't only about them.

Never mind the fact he must be completely bored out of his mind that he has nothing better to do, and everyone knows, bored people are, well, boring. So I'll bet he brings nothing to the marital bed but his expectation of being entertained.

Frankly I prefer a hungry man than one that is completely satisfied.

Well then.....either you go through alot of men, or you are very, very bad in bed!

Poque wrote: "Well then.....either you go through alot of men, or you are very, very bad in bed!"

Don't be silly Poque. Honestly I am confused by everyones defensiveness and need to insult one another rather than carry on an honest dialogue.

I identified with this post by Prudie because I have "been there, done that, got the scars".

I have been with the same man for an eternity. Our sex life has run the gammit from one end of the spectrum to the other. When I hear things like, sexual incompatibility, I hear "I am not getting what I want, so that person must be wrong for me." When in truth communication between the partners has totally faltered. The relationship needs work, and Prudie pointed that out nicely by recommending a book on talking about sex with each other.

Problems can be easily solved when each partner is willing to look beyond their own self interest, and find out what the other partner needs/wants. One does not maintain a relationship with anyone by focusing entirely on themselves. This was my point.

Trust me on this, when my partner was totally self serving, he thought life was great cause he was getting everything he wanted. I thought our sex life sucked big time and lost interest completely. I hear men complain they are not getting enough with their wives, so they fill in the gap with porn, and masturbation. By the time the do get in the sack with their wives, they have nothing to bring but expectations, and those expectations are so out of line with reality, no wife could live up to them.

Men would do a great service to themselves if they would consider the possibility that there is more to sex than the outcome. They want women to "understand them" and accept them just as they were the day they discovered sex at their own hand waking up with an errection one morning at the ripe old age of 12.

Yet they seem to be unwilling to consider that women do not function, think, or behave the same way, where is the mutual "acceptance" here? Where is the desire to create a great scenario for both partners rather than just making sure we get ours and to heck with anyone else?

"there is more to sex than the outcome"

FOR YOU. Yes, he should be going down on you. But you should realize that men are happy when we get laid.. and that's it. There is nothing more than the outcome for men. That doesn't make us bad people -- but just because there's more FOR YOU doesn't make the requirement for men any less important.

"Where is the desire to create a great scenario for both partners"

I agree completely. Where's your willingness to have lots of sex with your man?

To be clear: Yes, he should do more for you. But never for one second lose any degree of awareness that the "more" is ONLY FOR YOU - and not "both of you." Women don't function the same as men - and that works both ways.

Thank god all men don't think like that.

edensin:

Men would do a great service to themselves if they would consider the possibility that there is more to sex than the outcome.

In addition to, yes. Instead of, no.

edensin:

Sounds like someone is a little angry here. :(

Why is the woman frigid? Are you not implying there is something wrong with her?

Yes, because there is. Have you seen what happens to a guy's dick when you declare, "you're taking to long"?

Perhaps her man has learned to please himself so well he never bothered to learn how to please a woman? Someone so self focused is bound to miss the point that sex isn't only about them.

Twice a day is not evidence enough to me that he has learned to please himself. Saying how elaborate a fantasy he goes into to please himself does. He isn't self focused or he would have left his balls out to be trampled and twisted on by our resident frigidaire, prudy the lesser.

Never mind the fact he must be completely bored out of his mind that he has nothing better to do, and everyone knows, bored people are, well, boring. So I'll bet he brings nothing to the marital bed but his expectation of being entertained.

From the letter it seems she is the one who is bored, not he. She can't be bothered to go the distance to get him off during coitius the stupid cunt.

Frankly I prefer a hungry man than one that is completely satisfied.

Man cannot live off of fast food. I bet you are a veritable drive through.