My fiance and I have a long distance relationship at this time.

We have a virtual pet, Rex is a great dog, we write an talk over phone. This is not exactly what the author describes. I can't imagine how absent the real relationship is of anything close to communication or interest if an avatar monopolizes the husbands time. Why doesn't real time wife ask her husband if she can join the game and post to him as her own alter ego. She might want to let the avatar know, in a nice way, that she is encouraging an obsession which could result in disappointing consequences for everyone. As long as there are no threats of violence, perhaps she could suggest an on-line counseling session.

is it really worth going through? ok. i'm admittedly not married, partially because the general population's idea of what marriage should be and the amount of "sacrifices" that people think are acceptable turns me off. sure you should be flexible with the person you choose to be your spouse, but that's also why i think you should be extra careful in who you choose. if you've picked someone who is completely insensitive to your wants and needs then perhaps you made a bad choice and should get out of the marriage. a lot of people somehow think that there is some righteousness in playing the martyr. i however consider it to be unhealthy neurotic behavior that just happens to be shared by the majority of the country.