Holy bad advice there, Sunshine.
by
Murasaki
05/04/2009, 4:30 PM #
"Squelch my reaction. Not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate." Wait. What? This is the worst piece of amateur un-advice I've ever heard. Pretty much every trustworthy source on anger management or mood psychology in general agrees that suppressing feelings of anger is about as physiologically unhealthy as expressing anger inappropriately or excessively. Both approaches are equally likely to contribute to high blood pressure, heart disease, and early death. Plus, habitually suppressing anger will turn you into a passive-aggressive little shit, and I HATE those backbiting little turds and their whiny manipulative....
Sorry. Got sidetracked there.
Supressing anger does -not- allow it to dissipate. What dissipates with the passage of time is the physiological -experience- of anger- the flood of hormones and neurohumours that are generally flushed by the CNS after about 40 seconds assuming you don't do anything to keep up production. Suppressing natural responses is immensely effortful, and contributes to all those heart-related problems I mentioned above.
So, honestly, I think this is really unambiguously bad advice. It sounds like in the author's case she's doing it to head off inappropriate or excessive expressions of anger that would cause more problems than silence, but frankly, she (and anyone) would be a lot better off finding a sublimated or moderated form of expression rather than 'squelching' anything.