I'm a single mom with two children who already made the tough
decision of reducing my standard of living so I wouldn't have to take
on a second job. Yes I had the quantity of time I wanted with my
children, but I traded off a quality neighborhood. After four years in
an area where drugs & violence were regular, I was ready to move. I
had shaky credit that I had been working hard to repair, had a little
bit of money put away & happened by a sturdy older home in a much
better location. I doubted I would be approved for a loan but it
wouldn't hurt to call, this was a great house & in my price range.
I was approved, offers had been made & accepted, my children were
insanely excited & so was I. Three days before we were to close, I
get a call that there is a problem, they cannot get my original loan,
however, there is another loan they can get me, my interest rate would
be higher & it was fixed for only two years. They assured me
refinancing in two years would be no problem, that I just needed to
make all of my payments on time. Well, I said no... with the higher
rate my payment was doable, but it would require tighter budgeting
& yeah they could refinance in two years, as long as I made my
payments on time.... When I had been late in the past, it wasn't
because I wanted to be late, like it was just a choice I had made.
So,
I had to inform my landlord that I wanted to take back my 30 days
notice, who said ok & that he wanted to increase my rent. I had to
let my children down & tell them we weren't moving & personally
I felt like I'd failed.
A few months later, the company I had
been with for seven years sold. I quickly found another job & was
alright. However, my health insurance wasn't active yet & I had an
incident that left me in the hospital for five days with a final bill
in the 12k range. I called to make a payment plan with the hospital
& their policy is simple, paid in full in ninety days or it goes to
collections. They did suggest that I pay off as many of the bills that
I can in the ninety days since there are seven different billings that
will hit my credit making it worse.
With the four bills that went to collections & what that did to my
credit score, there is no way I could have refinanced before the ARM
would have put my mortgage payments beyond anything I could do.
Saying
no to the home was the best thing I could have done. I made payments
with the collection agencies for my medical bills, ended up paying off
my car, lived in the neighborhood I hated for three more years &
this May I drove by the PREFECT home for my little family. It is less than a mile away from my work & I love riding my bike to my job. This summer, my now teenagers & I were able to have lunches together when I came home for lunch. No, my credit score wasn't any better than when I first started, but I had saved & having a larger amount to put down made a lot of difference. Also, I have my fixed interest rate, but I pay a mortgage insurance to the lender for the "risk". My mortgage insurance cannot go up, however, if I make all of my payments on time, it can go down.
I'm sharing all of this so everyone understands.. I wanted a house as bad, as anyone who signed on the dotted line. I felt like a bait & switch victim when that occurred. But, it is my life, my money & my responsibility. Maybe these people had always been bailed out in life & don't get it, or maybe they are just the gambling type, or maybe the want took over good planning. More than likely something really lousy happened like a divorce, job loss ect ... We all know when you borrow anything there is a risk attached & you are expected to pay it back or meet the established terms. They took the risk & it didn't work out, I didn't take the risk & have myself in a home that I can afford now & 5 years from now.
They could have said no, they weren't forced into buying a home, if they didn't like the terms, they shouldn't have agreed to them.
This is my home...
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