He is from Mexico - I was 17 when i met him and he is 6 years older than me. I didn't know he was illegal when we started dating (when I was 18) because he spoke english really well and had lived here for 6 years... i guess since he was working I just assumed in my naive way that everything was fine with his status -- or it didn't even occur to me that he wouldn't be. We worked together at a restaurant and that's how I met him. We moved in together after graduation and that's when he told me he was illegal, by then i was young and head over heels in love.
We got married when I was 20 and a month later he hit me, then he beat the hell out of my computer with a hammer in a jealous rage, threatened to kill himself because I told him I wanted to hang out with friends more often, alienated me from my friends and family, was possessive, emotionally void and abusive - called me fat and everything else you can imagine... hell... I weighed 25lbs less than i do now and he was calling me fat!! I must be a cow now! :) So I left him almost exactly a year after we married.