As a former atheist (and former agnostic as well), but someone who has since found faith, I can assure you that not all atheists are uncharitable, nor mean, etc. I was raised Lutheran (Protestant). As a child, I attended Sunday School, read Bible stories, gave at church, and took it for granted that there was a God, and his son Jesus who died for my sins - the standard Christian line. In my tween and early teen years, we became more of "C&E Christians," meaning that we attended church on Christmas and Easter, and not much otherwise, but still considered ourselves a family of Christians.
Losing my faith was a process, not a 'Eureka' moment. My faith slid as a tween and teen as I found more important things to worry about (money, girls, social life), but I would pinpoint the actual loss of my faith around the age of 15-16 (about the time I was confirmed, oddly enough). I had taken a class (in public school!) on religions of the world, in which we studied various Christian denominations (from Evangelical to Orthodox (Russian or Greek, I don't recall) and Christian Scientist too), Judaism, Atheism, Buddhism, Humanism and there may have been others too. Atheism is the one that made sense to me. Somewhere around this time, I don't know if it was before or after the class, I was seriously turned off by the local Lutheran church I attended in preparation for my confirmation in the church. First, attendance was a pain and I had better things to do. Second, the main pastor was strongly against such things as Dungeons & Dragons, Dr. Who, science fiction in general, and other pasttimes I enjoyed, and which made up a strong part of my social circle. At my confirmation, I actually questioned a friend about what I should do if I wasn't sure I believed in God. (Who knows - maybe that pastor was right and it was my pasttimes and social circle that made me doubt... Something for me to ponder now that I have a son.) He was shocked, and I went through with the confirmation that day, but I continued to slide towards atheism. Other than studying atheism, and doubting/not believing in God, I don't think I considered my self a strong atheist until I was probably 17-18. I kept my atheism mostly on the down-low with respect to my family though, to minimize the ostracism from that most-important group. My mother knew I was an atheist but I think she was in serious denial; my father knew but wasn't as spiritual or religious as my mother, and my brother was closest to a nihilist or just apathetic on religion generally. By the time I started college, I was an outspoken atheist, joining the college atheist group, railing back at a radical Christian group that would proselytize on the public Mall (are the "Destroyers" still around, Brother Jed, Brother Max, etc.?).
During this time, I was still charitable (though young) - I worked with groups on charitable activities (including at food banks), and gave small amounts on occasion (I was a broke high school and college student during this period). Looking back in light of the main article and the posts since, I guess most of these activities were social in nature - I was part of a group that was performing charitable activities, or was donating to a cause because a friend asked me to. None of it had a particular international or worldly bent to it - it was generally whatever activities were around me. And, I still had the moral code I was raised with - turning away from religion didn't make me want to rape and steal, or even do drugs or take advantage of people. I still tried to follow the 10 Commandments - just as moral principles/guideposts, not Commandments from God.
By the time I finished college, though, I had become an agnostic, not an atheist. Philosophy I saw atheism as a belief system just as strong as the Christian faiths I knew. My standard line became "I am a firm believer in human ignorance." Still true today, sadly, but I digress. Part of that thought process got me to realize that there is no way to disprove God's existence, just as there is no way to prove God's existence. This change in belief made life with my folks a lot simpler - I didn't deny their beliefs anymore, but simply questioned them - looking for something I could believe or use as evidence one way or the other. I was terribly disappointed by all the televangelist scandals, and saw many prominent Christians as hypocrites. I was still turned off by the Church, but just didn't know (and didn't care *too* much) about God (other than as an interesting debate topic). I did consider, and reject, going for the "Why not pretend to believe, just in case the Christians are right?" period, but a healthy agnostic skepticism said believing in the wrong God/church wouldn't help, and that God, if there was one, would see through a false faith, so I may as well just live in doubt. This period lasted through law school and a couple of years afterward. (For anyone who's curious, there ARE Christian lawyers, though they are generally quiet about religion, and agnosticism serves one well in law school - it works great with the Socratic method!)
Again, during these years I was involved in charitable activities and donated things when I could, but again, it was generally as a social activity, not a duty or tithe, or even just an innate charitable impulse. And, based on what all the women I liked said, I was still a 'nice' guy. (Lol) And, the moral code didn't change.
As I was going through my nasty, bitter divorce, I looked for something to fill the hole and take away the darkness I felt I was lost in. I tried weed, I tried gambling, I tried socializing and dating, but none of those were sufficient. It took time, but I began to feel God was there waiting if I would look to Him. I was reluctant, but started reading the Bible (highlighting things that would be immoral by today's standards, or places where it seemed contradictory to other places or to the church's dogma) and eventually I turned to praying. God (and strong anti-depressants) got me through that rough patch, and my faith began to develop and grow. I talked with other Christians, to learn, to seek affirmation, and to learn their stories, but for me, belief in God was NOT a social thing, and still isn't today.
Today, I consider myself a devout Christian, but you wouldn't know it to look at me. I don't attend church, and am still fairly turned off by a lot of (Christian) church doctrine that I don't think follows what the Bible and my belief in (and/or conversations with?) God tells me. I believe we are supposed to tithe 10% of what God gives us, but that is hard in Los Angeles, especially after taxes, so I give as much as I feel I can - to both religious and non-religious groups - but I haven't volunteered for a while (I tell myself I'm too busy) and I don't publicize donations, other than to the IRS for the tax deduction. I still live by the same moral code - but now I believe that there are consequences for violating it. I still drink, I still gamble, I still lie, and I still look at pretty women. I just feel guilty about my actions and choices that violate God's Law (as I know it) and have to repent. Often. Anyway, I am still a social animal, but I am friends with many people - Christian, Jewish, Scientologists and non-believers (presumably atheists and agnostics both) (and maybe some Muslims and/or Buddhists, though I can't think of any). I proselytize if someone seems open to it, or if I think they might really need God in their lives at that moment, but I don't try to convert those who have strong belief in something other than what I believe in.
I guess the point of all this is that anyone, regardless of their faith, or lack thereof, can be a moral person, a good person, a 'nice' person, strongly pro-America, or can be the opposite of any of those. A lot of it has to do with how you're raised, and some of it has to do with what you open yourself to and when. People are individuals, with their own beliefs. Not every Christian believes the Bible is the *literal* Word of God. Not every Muslim believes that blowing up non-Muslims is part of their religion, and not every Muslim believes that blowing up non-Muslims IS part of their religion. Not every Jew eats kosher. Etc., etc., etc. Yet any or all of these individuals can have a moral code that the majority of Americans (and probably other people) would call "good".
Below, I'll run through some of my beliefs that really aren't relevant to this topic, but show the range of things a self-professed 'Christian' can believe in. For those who are only interested in the original topic, move on! :)
I consider the Bible the Word of God, and Jesus as His Son. I believe Christ died to redeem all of us. I don't believe God opposes science fiction or D&D (though I think both of them underplay religion, and can undermine faith). I believe in free will, given by God, and that people make choices. I don't believe all wrong in the world is from God (though a lot of it is from Lucifer), just as not all good comes from Him. This Earth is ours to do with what we will ("Render unto Caesar that which is Caesar's") - God is concerned with our eternal souls. He is neither a puppet master - we are not predestined to whatever path God selected for us before our birth - nor is He an absent Creator - creating Earth then ignoring his Creation. He is a wise and loving Father, who will guide us if we seek Him, help us if we ask Him, and feeling our sadness and pain when bad things happen or we choose to go down the wrong path.
I still have doubts occasionally - I am too cyncial and skeptical not to. That shapes some of my beliefs, I am sure. I support gay marriage, and believe that God will bless that union if the couple seeks His blessing. I believe that we need to protect the environment. I believe that we need to care for and help the poor, in the US and abroad. I support lower taxes, smaller government and more individual giving. I support the right of others to believe in what they will. I believe in the separation of church and state. I believe in animal rights, but subject to human rights and needs. I believe I can learn a lot - from Christians and non-Christians - about just about everything. I believe I can learn a lot from God, and that I will likely spend the rest of my life trying to do so. But above all, I have the simple faith that God is God, and gave his Son to redeem all of us, if only we let Him.
If you made it this far... Wow. Congratulations and thank you. God Bless you.
- Brian