....about the flowers??

I'm a perplexed XY.

I'm lost as well.

Me too.

I've given up on her and Hanna.

I can give a flying fig if they're liberal, conservative, cross-eyed, knock-kneed, bald, or smokers. What I can't deal with is their lame-ass posts. They are so freakin' pointless, they make me wanna grab my flat-screen monitor (does that make me elitist?) and chuck it out the window.

Please, Hanna, Melinda, for the love of all that is sacred and holy, stop. No, really, stop. Stop posting. Please?

Most of the time, I visit the XX Factor because I am in disbelief at the posts by the Slate authors! I'm usually disappointed yet I'm still drawn here, kind of like being drawn to look at a car accident.

The woman's husband didn't put any thought into the gift, and so the gift felt like a snub. Even cleaning the house or cooking a good meal would have seemed more heartfelt than grocery store flowers.

But all that seemed obvious from the post, so maybe you folks disagree?

Uh, but that's not the point. The point is, who cares? Why is this an appropriate post on the XX Factor?

I guess I don't agree that it warrants the type of dripping sarcasm attempted in the post, that it's such a universal reaction that every guy should know, or that it's something that is a good post for this blog.

I have no idea whether it reflects a lack of care or thought for those people in their situation; in my marriage I wouldn't see it that way.

A bit sexist to assume that he hadn't ALREADY cleaned the house, no? Maybe he cooked a nice meal the night before? I clean the house every day and do the laundry twice a week. My wife is still thrilled when I bring home flowers (admittedly, not often enough, but geez, I don't wanna spoil her!)

Oh, I see. The point is the reaction to a gift like flowers should be obvious because all women are the same.

Here's the romantic evening plan scenario--Bring home flowers, put them on the dining table for the nice dinner you are cooking, then share a bottle of wine as you give her a massage in a relaxing bubble bath. Here's the result of the evening--Woman gets pissed off because you didn't put any thought into just getting flowers from the grocery store, starts argueing, ruins the mood for the evening, goes to bed early all pissed off, and you have Mac 'n Cheese and watch sports all night. Sure, I guess she could not get pissed off about receiving a gift.