I was 19 when i met this man , who was 20 year older then me.As he was already a family Friend it was not a difficult situation for me to be comfortable with him.Eventually we got so close to each other and fell in love.We got married 2 year later when I was 21 and he was 41 year old.He even had 2 boys 8 and 12 at that time, which was not a big deal for me as i was in love with him and always wanted him to have his children with him.

It's been 4 year that I'm married and have no child of mine own because of our financial condition and also sometime we had issue regarding our relationship.As a lot of times we use to fight a lot.

Now I have this feeling of having my own child and my husband is also okay about it but i have health issue which makes me feel very depress.

Now I've found out that he was cheating on me the whole time.He has been going on adult website for his sexual pleasure.i was aware of it but i always ignored it as he always said that those were just his wild fantasy and that it's nothing serious.

All these years he was fooling me that he love me and was doing on adult website looking for people for having discreet sexual relationship.

He was addicted to reading all kind of incest stories and watching naked pics of women all the time.

Recently he got involved with a couple you was ready to have a THREESOME sex with my husband.And my husband was very excited about the whole thing.

2 days back I found all the emails regarding this planning of meeting up.

After I have confronted him on this, he is saying that he is very guilty and is ready to repent. But somehow i don't want to believe him.He is very good in convincing people.

After all this had happened ,I don't want to have a child with him, as for the last 4 years , this man was not serious about having a child or future planning.

At this point of my life, I''m alone and helpless and i don't have anybody to advice me what to do.

I've even thought about giving him a DIVORCE but still not sure as that is not easy as well.

Somebody please advice me if YOU UNDERSTAND my situation what I'm going trough right now.

I NEED TO MAKE MY DECISION ASAP.

SHOULD I FORGIVE HIM AND GIVE ANOTHER CHANCE OR LEAVE HIM AS HE CAN REPEAT THAT AGAIN AND NEXT TIME HE WILL BE EXTRA CAREFUL??

PLEASE ADVICE

Didn't you already post here once under a different name and with slightly different details?

The guy likes fresh meat. Why else would he go after a woman half his age (you were essentially a child when he met you), and cheat on her not long after she was old enough to drink?

Get tested for STDs, and be thankful that you never had kids with this loser. You are still plenty young enough to have your own kids. I wouldn't be surprised if he conveniently forgot to mention that little vasectomy he had right after his 2nd kid was born.

If he really likes incest stories, imagine him with your pre-pubescent daughter, home alone. That alone ought to clinch the deal for you.

... to rate your own posts. This isn't an election.

Yes you are right , it was me at that time with a different issue and now this is what is happening in my life.

BUT HE SAYS , THAT NOW HE IS REALISING THAT HE WAS WRONG AND THAT HE WILL NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.

HE ALSO SAYS THAT HE IS READY TO BECOME A CHANGED MAN.

I REALLY NEED ADVICE , AS WHAT EXACTLY I SHOULD DO IN THIS CASE??

PLEASE HELP..................

What you need to do is stop writing in caps.....

It sounds like you want to stay and so you're looking for someone to agree that yoiur "changed man" has really changed. I think you should go your own way, but the reality is that you'll probably stay.

take charge of YOUR LIFE! Make YOUR OWN choices. Do YOU WANT to be with him or not? Can YOU FORGIVE him or not? He says HE IS sorry, but he is FULL of Shit.

Get OUT & don't get into another RELATIONSHIP until you can GROW UP & make your OWN ADULT choices.

I'm seriously ALL for trying as hard as you possibly can to make your marriage work (the divorce rate is atrocious) but if it was me, I would leave, plain and simple. That would be way too much for me to accept.

Clearly, the problem is a lack of anal sex. You're not giving up the butt and therefore, by the bylaws of man-hood he's allowed to go have a freaky 3-way with anyone who will let him get some ass.

So yes, clearly not only should you forgive him but you should hire a hooker off craigslist and have a 3-way with him to let him know that you're fine with that and he will have to come up with something far kinkier to ever get rid of you...something like underage midget porn involving farm animals, 2 albino Ukranian's and a contortionist at least!!!!!

In short, holy crap...if you really need that much attention in your life to post near identical sob stories on Dear Prudie to validate your existance or to rub one out to late at night (doesn't matter which honestly) then please enter the next Darwin Awards competition as soon as possible.

RIYA-K:

we had issue regarding our relationship.As a lot of times we use to fight a lot.
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Now I've found out that he was cheating on me the whole time.
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He was addicted to reading all kind of incest stories
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i don't want to believe him.He is very good in convincing people.
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Incidentally, repsonding to your own post multiple times in order to get the count up is even poorer form than rating yourself.

He was addicted to reading all kind of incest stories

This guy knows how to PAR-TAAAAAAAY !!!!!

Doesn't that count for anything these days ?

All I can say is, DUMP THE CHUMP!!!

Don't believe any of this "changed man" bullshit. He's telling you what you want to hear. Don't have kids with this loser. Dump him. Get strong emotionally and start over. You're still young.

Funny how people ask others to tell them what they already know.

You think it's a bad idea to have a child with this man. You're right.

You think you might want to divorce this man. You're right.

You think that forgiving him might be risky. You're right.

What advice do you need? You're either prepared to forgive him and risk him lying to you again or you're not. None of us can tell you whether you are. You have to figure that out yourself. I wouldn't trust him, but it isn't my marriage at stake, is it?

Keep this in mind, however: 24-25, single and childless is was different than 24-25 with a kid (or "baggage" as we single guys like to call it). Do not, DO NOT, have this man's kid until he's shaped up for at least a year, and you're certain that you two have a future. Otherwise, prepare for the joys of single motherhood, and good luck with the child support.