And then you'll be in jail.

Is she worth it?

And if you have children, she'll hit them too. But they won't be bigger than she is. She needs professional help.

Actually, avoid the middleman, call the cops. Domestic violence is domestic violence, regardless of the sex of the perpetrator...

Because when a woman hits a man, he clearly deserved it?

This is what's wrong with this letter. He shouldn't have to ask the question in the first place. If it were reversed and he hit her, she would have a shelter to go to, the police would be at his door, and there would be a Lifetime movie about one woman's brave struggle. She hits him, everyone shrugs, and as the OP notes, if he snaps one day, he gets the brunt of the punishment.

The fact of the matter is that it's portrayed as okay for a woman to hit a man. Movies glamorize women that take revenge on their husbands (Enough, Double Jeopardy). Until it's noted that it's not okay for anyone to hit anyone else - even playfully - then it's going to keep going this way.

Here's what I'd do: start hanging out at Irish bars. Sooner or later she'll take a swing at a cop. End of trouble.

Shoot, Iso, taking a swing at an Irish cop is just flirting!