Thank you Prudie-

Thank you for devalueing a new mothers concern that her husband is viewing Porn.(insert sarcasim) I get the impression that you are not a mother at this point. I am also getting the impression that you are not married.

It is my understanding that a marriage is built on trust and there are several issues here. 1) He was hiding it, and if its "no big deal and you should let it go" then what is to hide? Lets all just show porn continuelsy on our giant screen TV's when the inlaws come over. There is nothing wrong with that? 2) As opposed to supporting his probably very tired and very insecure wife, who is probably feeling as though her body and prior life, and now her relationship with her husband, has dissapeared, he is sitting at the computer, diluting his thoughts and checking out chicks with face lifts, nose jobs, bikini waxes and fake boobs. Sweet.

I used to believe that there was sound advice coming from this site. This entire post has made me ill with your devaluing of marriage and the support of an actual affair and an emotional affair. I will never read this site again. Who knows, Porn viewing is encouraged. Maybe I will spend my time viewing that instead?

Sounds like you could use it, frankly.  Where was the actual affair?  Even the emotional affair?  Porn isn't an emotional thing - there's no attachment, just an image  And no, it's not something you would do out in the open.  Taking a dump is okay, yet I don't invite people into the bathroom to watch me do it.  And you're jumping to conclusions like most of the other anti-porn nazis, insisting that he isn't "supporting his wife" and that he's allowed their relationship to disappear.  Read the letter again - it's apparent that she wouldn't have had a problem with him surfing the web if it weren't for the porn.

No, thank you for never visiting again! Oh, and if you do, remember that makes you untrustworthy and you should be divorced, tared and feathered.

What's wrong with face lifts, new boobs, nose jobs and waxing? That's ordinary for everyone these days! Hell, breast implants and new cars are the number one and two Sweet Sixteen presents in Texas.

I guess you don't get out of the compound much, though.

The problem is that the women usually look worse after than before. A wise man once said, "plastic parts are made for toys."

KyrstinRitz:

Lets all just show porn continuelsy on our giant screen TV's when the inlaws come over. There is nothing wrong with that?

There are plenty of things that are ok that one wouldn't want to do in front of the in-laws. Blow-jobs for instance.

KyrstinRitz:

As opposed to supporting his probably very tired and very insecure wife, who is probably feeling as though her body and prior life, and now her relationship with her husband, has dissapeared,

There is no indication that he isn't supporting her. She didn't whine about he wasn't helping, and then adds that he was watching porn. And if her relationship with her husband disappears because he watched a bit of porn, then they didn't have much of a relationship to begin with.

KyrstinRitz:

I used to believe that there was sound advice coming from this site.

Then you're a fool. No advice columnist can give sound advice because they know so very little of what is actually going on. Advice columns are for entertainment, nothing more.

KyrstinRitz:

This entire post has made me ill with your devaluing of marriage

The value of a marriage is not dependent on other people. My marriage is as valuable today as it was before the Dear Prudence article. If yours isn't, well I'm sorry that it was so weak.

KyrstinRitz:

Who knows, Porn viewing is encouraged. Maybe I will spend my time viewing that instead?

If that removes the stick from your ass, then that might not be a bad idea.

I'm with you, except for one thing. Be grateful that no one gets to see my former nose. Trust me on that one.

PhysicsGirl, you rock. I enjoyed your several responses to these irrational people who have come out of the woodwork.

That threat was made in the movie "Spaceballs" but I can't find it. The Druish princess was completely unshakeable until threatened with the restoration of her original nose.

PhysicsGirl:

KyrstinRitz:

Who knows, Porn viewing is encouraged. Maybe I will spend my time viewing that instead?

If that removes the stick from your ass, then that might not be a bad idea.

Out here in the midwest, it's a corn cob up the ass or a bug up the butt depending on the level of insult you want to deliver.

He didn't hide anything. he didn't clear the browser history. If anything he should have taken more care to hide it.

And a list of things my wife and I don't do with the in-laws:

1. Watch Porn (oh you got me there)

2.. Have intercourse

3. Felacio

4. Urinate or Deficate

5. Smoke (This applies only to my wife and her mom)

6. Play Everquest ( Rude with company)

7. Massages

8. Watch Star Trek ( They aren't fans)

9. Watch Horror Films (Again not something they appreciate)

10. Use Profanity

11. Go barefoot (This is a quirk with my folks)

12. Go shirtless (Except at a pool)

13. Clean the house (This is done before they come)

14. Run around Naked. (We do enjoy this when the kids out of the house but not as much fun with th in-laws there.)

15. Listen to LOUD music

Since all these things are immoral based on your criteria, I will cease doing them immediately. How many floggings must I self admininister to atone?

Oh,, believe me, it wasn't pretty. Aside from the fact that it didn't fit my face, it had been broken multiple times....

I am SOOOOOOO glad I took care of that!

Also in Addams Family Values (I think) when the children take over the summer camp.

Before that, Wednesday tells a horror story to the prissy bitches seated around the campfire.

The thrill line is (something along the lines of): "And then they all got their original noses back!"

[cue blonde princesses clutching their perfect little fake noses in sheer terror.]

There is really only one reason why a husband would hide legal porn...

Because he, as well as most sane and rational people knows it's actually not that big of a deal. He hides it because he knows his wife, and he knows she would react unnecessarily to finding it. He doesn't want his wife to feel bad, and get angry over something that is basically a form of comfort for him. He is not going to leave her over a bit of porn. He doesn't love her any less because he looks at it. He knows most of the women are sliced, and diced, and airbrushed until they barely resemble a real human being. All it is is something that brings him some happiness every once in a while.

Men go through tough times when they have new children as well. Their wife isn't herself. she's tired, and feels unsexy. Which he feels he can do nothing about. He's tired. etc.

Cut the guy some slack. This one in particular didn't even really attempt to hide it. He just didn't sit her down and tell her he was doing it. It's really not what some people make it out to be.

Morinehtar wrote: "The problem is that the women usually look worse after than before. A wise man once said, "plastic parts are made for toys."

Is this just opinion or is it based on any facts? Somehow, whenever I read something like this, my first thought is: Probably can't afford it.