Prudence really got it wrong with the video from the woman who thinks her best friend can't enjoy her happiness. If the friend thinks that every time she gets a boyfriend she disappears, who's to say she doesn't?

The author says that she brings the boyfriend along to "planned outings such as birthdays and movies". Why does she have to bring her boyfriend to a trip to the movies? Doesn't she see enough of him on their own time? Maybe the friend feels left out, because the author is joined at the hip - to her boyfriend.

Sadly I've had plenty of friends who did just this: bounced from boyfriend to boyfriend looking for the ultimate prize: Mr. Right, and they leave in their wake the remains of friendships where they've worn out their welcome, demanding that their boyfriend become BFF#3.

Sorry, Prudence. You blew it.

Awwww... are you that lady's friend?? Ha.

Dude, whatever. This is not high school we are talking about, this woman is in an adult relationship with someone she considers serious enough to be potential marriage material. Friendships at this age should NOT be so codependent that one should be jealous of a friend's lover. We all have the right to say "the person I go to bed with is more important to me than the person I share mean spirited gossip with" and can choose to divide their time accordingly.

And, honestly, although I've heard this "give your BFFs one on one time" before, it makes absolutely no sense to me. I usually don't have enough spare time to pass out, so when I do go out, I usually go with a GROUP of friends, and I'm sorry, I think the person I like enough to screw is considered my friend, and I think whoever has the problem with playing nice with others doesn't deserve to have me work around their schedule.

But I think there's something in middle of both of your arguments.

On one hand - yes - your boyfriend/girlfriend becomes your best friend in many ways, and so it's with reluctance that many of your outer and inner circle of friends have to come to see him/her as a "package deal".

Then again - I had a friend whose best girl friend used to absolutely BASH every guy that my friend dated. To this day, I don't think she's ever had a serious relationship because she allows her friends to bully them away.

We are human beings. We don't BELONG to each other. We just have to be who we are and if other people don't like how we carry on our friendships and relationships they need to go screw themselves and find someone else that they can control and call a friend.

Amen to what you said.

"I don't think she's ever had a serious relationship because she allows her friends to bully them away."

I've mostly seen this between sisters who are very close. It's really dysfunctional!