This is why dudes should never listen to chicks about what they like. Example, a hot chick goes out with a dude with a mustache. Other dudes say "Hey, what's he got...?". Chick says "I love his 'stache". End result: Hundreds of dudes growing scraggy hair under their lip. Yet, it's all biology and destiny. Dudes, save yourself the trouble.

Hmmm... okay, let's just run with this for a second.

Maybe women like a mustache because it lets them smell more of you through hair follicles and oil ducts in the face...

And also, you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to "chicks". Finding out what women want is the best way to get all the ladies. Seriously, don't shoot yourself in the foot.

Find out what women want? That's simple, material goods and of course money.

as Freud said- the greatest mystery is: What does a woman want? of course money and power are good aphrodisiacs, but i know many women who are wealthy and choose nasty rough guys who mistreat and beat them, so who knows!? many women send love letters to convicted killers; the more violent the crimes, the more mail these felons receive from women who think that "my love will save him". when it comes to love, nobody knows anything.

ProudInfidel:

Find out what women want? That's simple, material goods and of course money.

And if you act like a guy who thinks all women are shallow gold-diggers, you'll certainly attract the shallow gold-diggers. Self-fulfilling. But if you say to yourself "women like a decent, intelligent, kind guy" and behave that way, guess what? You're far more likely to attract women who like decent, intelligent, kind guys - and iareperhaps decent, intelligent, and kind themselves.

The problem you are having is that you've made an assumption that is simply not true. If one "hot chick" likes mustaches, that does not mean another "hot chick" will like a mustache. She might like long hair, or blue eyes, or whatever.

Terrils wrote:

ProudInfidel:Find out what women want? That's simple, material goods and of course money.

"And if you act like a guy who thinks all women are shallow gold-diggers, you'll certainly attract the shallow gold-diggers. Self-fulfilling. But if you say to yourself "women like a decent, intelligent, kind guy" and behave that way, guess what? You're far more likely to attract women who like decent, intelligent, kind guys - and are perhaps decent, intelligent, and kind themselves."

Most such men will say:

"Been there, done that, didn't work"

Sorry to rain on your parade.

jabailo wrote: "This is why dudes should never listen to chicks about what they like."

Absolutely correct. Listen to the pros. They'll tell you that its important to pander to a woman's insecurities. This got my room mate in first year U laid on a regular basis. His only problem was getting them to bugger off! Man he could get rude and they still wouldn't take the hint. The nice "decent" guys on the floor couldn't get it - but they couldn't get a date either.

I was "dumped" recently by a woman. While lying in bed later and mulling over what she said, I had a flashback. Her complaints were the same as the advice my scumbag room-mate gave me. I guess that I'm lucky since I don't want that role in life and making such a relationship work is more trouble than its worth. Being single is much superior.

Slawrence5:

But if you say to yourself "women like a decent, intelligent, kind guy" and behave that way, guess what? You're far more likely to attract women who like decent, intelligent, kind guys - and are perhaps decent, intelligent, and kind themselves."

Most such men will say:"Been there, done that, didn't work" Sorry to rain on your parade.

It doesn't work if you're not actually a decent, intelligent and kind man. If you're going to pretend to be something you're not, playing the bad boy will get you laid more often. But by focusing your energy on pretending to be someone in order to get a girlfriend, you'd be extremely lucky to end up in a good relationship.

Men and women should be themselves and do the activities they want to do without worrying about meeting a mate. The latter happens more often when you're doing your own thing than when you're really trying to find someone.

PhysicsGirl wrote: "Men and women should be themselves and do the activities they want to do without worrying about meeting a mate. The latter happens more often when you're doing your own thing than when you're really trying to find someone."

This may be the case in parts of the country where there is a balance between the sexes or a surplus of women. This isn't the case where I live so the "decent, intelligent and kind man" you refer to is usually single. When the competition is feirce, you must be more calculating. It also helps to have deep pockets.

However "doing your own thing" is at least a way to be happy while single.

1) Three dates, if she doesn't put out, move on!

2) Never spend more than $40.00 on a date.

3) NEVER date single mothers, NEVER!

4) No Serious relationships before age 25.

5) Meet her after dinner.

6) ALWAYS, ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!! 100% OF THE TIME!!!

evensteven wrote:

"1) Three dates, if she doesn't put out, move on!
2) Never spend more than $40.00 on a date.
3) NEVER date single mothers, NEVER!
4) No Serious relationships before age 25.
5) Meet her after dinner.
6) ALWAYS, ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!! 100% OF THE TIME!!!"

Things were so much simpler before AIDS.

DUH!

That's what the condom is for.

Not to mention that herpes, and other STD's are still running rampant.

Slawrence5:

When the competition is feirce, you must be more calculating. It also helps to have deep pockets.

And then you end up with a shallow gold-digger who shares none of your interests. Personally I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who is unsuited to me. I'm too old for that drama shit.

Slawrence5:

This may be the case in parts of the country where there is a balance between the sexes or a surplus of women. This isn't the case where I live so the "decent, intelligent and kind man" you refer to is usually single.

I lived in San Jose CA for ten years, one place with far more single men than single women. Yet, most of the intelligent, decent and kind men I knew were able to get girlfriends (I knew one guy who couldn't, but his social skills differed so widely from the norm that his first dates never turned into second dates.) They certainly didn't have as many opportunities as the "bad boys" that I knew, but none of them went through a significantly long dry spell. It's simply a matter of where you look.