Yes, That's What You're Supposed To Do
by
alisonjane33
08/09/2008, 3:45 PM #
"We are supposed to ride with this couple through her cancer diagnosis
and relapse, through their son's death, their fertility treatments, and
the rededication of their marriage, but then we are supposed to butt
the hell out when the story line veers from the tragedy and heroics."
Yes, that's what you're supposed to do. I can listen sympathetically to the fact that she lost her child and may well be dying of cancer without expecting to be informed about whether her husband cheated on her. Unless they have something to do with me or the operation of government, what personal details of her life she chooses to share is up to her. That's what "privacy" means. She may share some and not others; that is absolutely her right, unless his affair affects me, which it does not. The fact that sharing one personal story may lead people to WANT to know everything about you does not mean that it ENTITLES them to know everything about you.
I repeat: unless it has something to do with me or the operation of government, she has the right to decide which personal details of her life she wants to discuss, just like everyone else.
How on earth have we reached the point where we can look at a woman who has lost a child, has advanced cancer, and has had to repair a marriage after an affair, and we can nevertheless persuade ourselves that we are entitled to some righteous indignation because she's asking not to rehash the affair?