Normally I take Prudie's side when it comes to advice, but I just can't agree with the advice given to "Torn." Certainly Torn doesn't have to react in an emotionally explosive relationship ending way to her husband's secret infidelity, but I do think she should be more concerned than she sounds. Has it occurred to Torn that she is very lucky she only contracted minor curable infections from her husband's careless sexual encounters? It amazes me that she actually had a doctor that would treat her and her husband for a known STD without bringing up the more dire consequences of unprotected sex. He wasn't just being dishonest about your relationship, he could have been endangering your health in a more serious way. This alone should be cause enough for some deep soul searching on part of both Torn and her husband. A relationship this damaged isn't going to succeed on forgiveness from Torn alone. Take some pride in yourself Torn and don't let your husband continue disrespect both your relationship and your health.

And when the husband, who WASN'T unfaithful shoves the medical facts under his disloyal wife's nose and shows her that trich isn't ALWAYS sexually transmitted and then gets a divorce that grants HIM everything - let's hope she writes back to Prudie complaining so that we men can rub it in your misandrist face.

Personally, I'll laugh my ass off that she destroyed her marriage based on moronic advice given her by Prudie and her ill-informed doctor.

And isn't it a coincidence that ill-informed doctor is a woman???

No, it's not a coincidence.

Do you suppose a Prudie staffer kept on calling doctors until they got the answer they wanted? Nah... couldn't be.....could it?

Except that the LW said that she KNOWS her husband screws around all the time and she's ok with that unless, I suppose, he brings one of his fuckpuppets home with him.

She's cool with it. She just wants to stay with him. Why, we have no idea. It's stupid, but there you go.

In the original letter it looks like she has concluded that her husband screws around because her doctor told her it was virtually impossible to get that particular infection any other way. She didn't at that time use the word "knows". this is definitely not a bright person, and I certainly hope they didn't have kids. A cheater and a moron are not good choices for gene pool expansion. Even if he didn't cheat, they are not good reproductive models.

I think it was a jacked-up coincidence that the doctor that was 'giving' meds to both her and her hubby was a man; the doc was basically covering her hubby's back all these years, basically condoning what he was doing. Any self-respecting doctor should've warned the man about how this was affecting not only his health, but his wife's as well.