Truth hurts. But truth is paramount to wellness. The information at hand bears further investigation for proof, but a lot can be said of photos and reality. This woman will never be complete without the truth being brought to light and tho' it will astound and perhaps overwhelm the other family, the other family may have had their quiet suspicions for years. Love needs to know love. Medical history is VERY important in this day and age and being one with someone or some many is so needed in this world. Heart of my heart has meaning. Family is family. They can all be one big happIER family from now on despite the losses. I believe, Prudie, you were off your mark with your response to this one. As a counselor and minister, I would have advised all of the above. As a person with a heart, I would have lent my spirit and support to the cause. Ebracing unity. Signed...Dove of Christ.

Well, as an adoptee, whose life was ruined by closed adoption Dove of Christ, I have to ask you what do you think of closed adoption records and the Churches evil position on it? Are you aware that the Catholic Church had LIED, over and over again about the kind of familiees that we were given too? That sometimes our birthdays are given as another day? That we were ripped away from our moms who wanted us but unforgiving cold hearted nuns and social workers manipulated, coersed and lied to them and blackmailed them with a so called huge hopsital bill they had to pay in order to keep us, that they could never meet of course? Our moms had no idea, since this was their first pregnancy what was in store for them-and the Churches took advantage of that. They also punished them ruthelessly and US as well, innocent babies instead of forgiving for an act of fornication and us for being "bastards" the way Christ told them too.(Lest I remind you that Jesus saved the adutlress from being stoned and not commiting adultry is a commandment and having sex out of wedlock is not, so if He can forgive breaking a commandment with no punishement, then Christians have no right to punish us or our moms) The Churches along with adoptive parents(who played a part in getting our records closed to begin with for their own selfish reasons) and the Adoption Agencies who wanted them closed as well so they could make more sales (and they have! Billons of dollars worth and they have abused us to make all that money) are constantly treating us like dirt and lying to congress about some stupid birth mother privacy lie they made up to try to keep our records closed, so they can't get sued for all the lies they have told us and our real mothers and for all the information they have mixed up concerning our familiies and birth. You sound like you could be a nice man, a loving and forgiving man, the way Christ DEMANDS you be, so I would appreciate it if you could start talking to church clergy and make them realize how they act in the world of adoption is satanic, not Christian. They need to know too, that WE ARE NOT GIFTS TO INFERTILE COUPLES. That we want OUR OWN MOMS, OUR OWN FAMILLIES, OUR OWN BLOODLINE THAT GOD GAVE US AND ALL FACTS ABOUT OUR BIRTH. Thankyou.

You again, I remember you showed up a few weeks ago screaming the same bull. I'm sorry for your circumstances but again, unless you have a time machine how can you know that your life would have been better being raised by a single parent? Or low income parents? I am sure it must have broken your birth parents hearts to give you up but please remember that whatever happened to you is not how all adoptees feel.

Yes, I know there are horror stories out there about people who adopt because they can't have kids of there own and then give up the adopted child when they are suddenly pregant. Maybe that happened to you, there should be horrible punishments for people like that.

No matter what you say, I am positive that in a few years I will adopt as many children as I can. You see, my husband was adopted and knows that he was brought up by a family that loves him and he wants to do the same for other children too.

What if this woman is just emotional unbalanced, delusional, or worse? Without concrete proof that she is NOT related to her family members, and without verifying with relatives old enough to know that she was not adopted, she has no business intruding upon a stranger's life. Even then, she needs to let an impartial outside (lawyer) be the bearer of the news. Especially since she already stalked tracked down this woman once. Maybe she stalked observed several women, and chose the one whose life most resembled what she wanted hers to be, to stick into her fantasy?

magicienne-

I wasn't on here a few weeks ago, and you are nothing but a typical selfish PAP or Ap who doesn't care about how adopted people feel. You will be a horrible parent if you adopt with these attitudes and I highly doubt your husband is adopted. There is NOTHING worse in the world then being told you can not know who your own parents are and there is no worse child abuse. I don't care if I lived in a trailor growing up with my real mother, at least I would of KNOWN or she was, and had the right to know, and so what if I was poor-it is WORSE not to know who your own mother and family are-money is SO overated in this snot ass country-most mothers were FORCED to give us away, and the Church, adoption agencies and social workers lied to them left and right, like they have lied to us. Go read the book "The girls that went away". all the truth is in there-you however do not know what you are talking about, and my real mother never could of abused me as much as my adoptive mother did. To be abused by an adoptive mother and be told too that I can not know who my onw parents are is too much for any human being, innocent child to have to ever take, You are wrong too unfortunalty about my adoptive mother having her own kid and giving me to a foster home-I wished to Christ that did happen though. My life would of been alot better.

IncogNeato, you are ridiclous--she isn't stalking anyone, so stop being so parnoid and melo dramatic-she should totally get a DNA test and then write to her real family and ask them to call her. She is right to meet them, they ARE her family and it wasn't her fault she was switched-they should all sue that hopsital too-the ones who make it seem like she is a psycho on her, which she is not, are all Pro Adoption morons who think real familys are a type of disease because they want to make money off of adoption or the are resentful they can't have their own kids. Either way, THEY NEED HELP.

BeingAdoptedSucks:

There is NOTHING worse in the world then being told you can not know who your own parents are and there is no worse child abuse. I don't care if I lived in a trailor growing up with my real mother, at least I would of KNOWN or she was, and had the right to know,

Yeah, right. Many of the kids put up for adoption - not saying you'd have been one of these - would NOT have been living in a trailer had their real birth mothers kept them. They'd have been living on the streets, on in a string of mom's boyfriends' apartments, getting beaten and raped by the boyfriends (even the boys), watching mom get strung out by alcohol and drugs, or being left alone for hours and sometimes days at a time.

I've known plenty of kids who were taken from their parents and placed into the foster system, or adopted, or just placed into children's homes. Many would have been killed had they stayed with their birth mothers, and some did have siblings killed. There were 2 children's homes in my school district as a kid. Trust me. Had the mothers of the vast majority loved them enough to give them up at birth, they'd have been a lot better off, and their mothers might have had a chance to become productive citizens themselves. A very few were there because their mothers had died, but most had mothers who had abandoned or endangered them. I've known of several children murdered by their mothers just so the mother would be free to date, or because her latest boyfriend didn't want kids.

I know you enjoy your "what if" dream world, but remember, it's just a dream.

"They are her family" There is no proof that she was switched at birth and there is no proof that these people are her family and until she has such proof, she has no business contacting them.

You are such a big fat liar!

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BeingAdoptedSucks wrote the following post at 07/13/2008 6:02 PM:

magicienne-

I wasn't on here a few weeks ago