After discussing the male writer's discussion of the things he values in his wife.......

"It's a far cry from trashing, but it's rather narcissistic damning with condescending praise, isn't it? And I wonder if it might go some way to explaining why so many writing wives don't hesitate to eviscerate:"

There you have it. Guys who need their wife because they haven't got it together, are the subject of evisceration. Meanwhile, women are very distrustful of men who don't need this support. Perhaps they are worried that they will have no hold over them? Or is it just that there really is no man who is good enough?

Very distrustful of men who already have it together? How so?

I think every woman wants to be in control of her marriage. I guess when the guy can take care of himself, they fear that he could leave at any time, because he doesn't need her to take care of him. So I guess they'd rather marry a guy who can't cook, clean, or do his own laundry, and complain about the fact that he doesn't cook, clean, or do his own laundry, than marry a guy who can do all of those things because that guy could leave since he doesn't have to go back and live with his mother.