Reagan's call for an "unambivalent" patriotism and the Bush "with us or against us" attitude come a lot closer to Uber-nationalism or fascism than to true patriotism.
Bush made the ludicrous claim that terrorists attacked us because they "hate our freedom." Perhaps his illegal electronic surveillance of US citizens or denial of trials and Habeas Corpus not to mention the new requirement for Americans to have passports to enter their own country from Canada will help. After all it seems reasonable to assume that if terrorists truly "hate our freedom" then taking away our freedom will make them like us better.
We are priveleged to live in a country where we can speak our minds, choose our religion, and vote for our leaders. We are fortunate to not have to worry about our neighbors tunring us in to the secret police or having to "show our papers" to travel within our own borders. We have the right to challenge our governments policies through protests and the courts. We have presumption of innocence until proven guilty in a court of law...
Patriotism does not mean turning a blind eye to abuses of law or lies by our government it means standing up for our rights and those of others. It means letting our representatives know our views and holding them accountable if they won't listen. It means protesting illegal wars. It means taking a stand even when the safe thing to do is to remain silent.
This is true patriotism.