those two screwed over the entire family and now they are miffed by their censor?

tell the father to go to the wedding but not the reception. no one wants him there they just invited him to hurt his new whore wife.

if he goes to the recepiton he will ruin the day for everyone. they only want him there for the wedding because his is father of the groom/bride. nothing more

And so he should go to the wedding, why? Myself, I kind of agree with you that I think this whole invitation to the wedding is probably a set up so they can publicly humiliate him in front of all their family.

The bride just wants to have a wedding without drama! Who wants to set up things to create more drama on their wedding day?

The mother will be there, no doubt it will ruin the mother's day to see the bitch at the wedding. The mother and the bitch in the same room will only be a guarantee of more drama. The bride want to have a nice wedding! Is that too much to ask?

greensleeves:

And so he should go to the wedding, why?

Maybe he loves his children and wants to celebrate the large life step one is taking?

greensleeves:

Myself, I kind of agree with you that I think this whole invitation to the wedding is probably a set up so they can publicly humiliate him in front of all their family.

I doubt it. It's a wedding, not a dinner party. Many of my friends have gotten married in the last few years and none of them have said, "You know what I want at my wedding? More drama!"

Chances are the daughter wants her father at her wedding. That's not really that much of a stretch.

I can't believe the viciousness of the comments directed toward this woman. None of us here have any idea of what was going on in the marriages of these two people and their former spouses. I am not condoning infidelity but there are times when people take fairly tortuous paths to remove themselves from toxic relationships. The process is seldom clean and damage does occur but there are limits to how much one should "pay" or atone for their transgressions.

I think Prudie gave "Banned" fairly sound advice but I don't think the father should attend the wedding given the fact that his children, including the one who is getting married, don't speak to him. There is no need for the father to knowingly subject himself to that kind of cruel behavior from his children. He should send a nice gift and a card and invite the newlyweds to visit him and his wife when they return from their honeymoon.

His children and ex-wife need to get over themselves.

greensleeves:

And so he should go to the wedding, why? Myself, I kind of agree with you that I think this whole invitation to the wedding is probably a set up so they can publicly humiliate him in front of all their family.

You honestly think a woman would use her one (and hopefully only) dream wedding day as a ruse to humiliate her father and his wife?

And remember, the LW's entire basis of dismay is that she's NOT the center of attention in that family. I wonder if she got the wedding she wanted when she married the father? Doesn't the father's daughter deserve the same?

Totally amasing, your morality defies the core philosophy it is based on. No wonder so many of the xtian kids are totally fucked up with hypocrites such as yourself as examples. So much for loath the sin and love the sinner, and forgiving their trespasses. Fuck no, you can't do that. You have to declare an all out war for generations with vendettas using your warped morality and self righteousness as justification. (Patent Pending Cut and past answer for self righteousness assholes).

bzl:

You honestly think a woman would use her one (and hopefully only) dream wedding day as a ruse to humiliate her father and his wife?

Well, these are the same charming people who call their father's wife a whore and publicly snub him. And never underestimate the viciousness of a bitter ex-wife who lost her meal ticket. So, yeah, I think they are quite capable of using this blessed occasion as an opportunity to further insult their father. If these folks have one-tenth the nastiness in them of the comments posted here on this subject, I wouldn't be surprised if they had a hit man pop out of the wedding cake.

Before he decides whether or not to go, Dad ought to ask himself, "Why was I invited?" He is really the only one who could answer this question at all accurately. The reasons could range from benign (the children really would like to stop the nastiness and re-connect) all the way to vicious (set up for humiliation). With something neutral in the middle (bride wants a complete set of parents in her photos so she can have the "perfect" wedding). We don't know enough of the back story to guess correctly, but Dad no doubt does, and he should accept or reject accordingly (or at least be prepared - bullet proof vest and all).

Enough is enough already with this childishness. My best advice is for Dad and his wife just to be happy and love each other. It will drive the ex crazy.

PTCruiser:

I don't think the father should attend the wedding given the fact that his children, including the one who is getting married, don't speak to him.

You don't think maybe the daughter is trying to build bridges and to make amends for her own behavior toward her father? Now that she is out of her mother's home, it probably will be easier for her to do so, especially if her new husband is supportive of the effort.

IncogNeato:

[You don't think maybe the daughter is trying to build bridges and to make amends for her own behavior toward her father? Now that she is out of her mother's home, it probably will be easier for her to do so, especially if her new husband is supportive of the effort.

THat could absolutely be the case. It may be the daughter would have invited both her father and his wife, but her mother had a hissy and threatened to drink draino, so the daughter figured even just getting her father there would be a compromise. Again, we don't know enough of the back story.

Well, maybe the daughter is trying to make amends. She might, however, give her dad a call and arrange to visit with him - just the two of them - prior to her wedding day.

That would work for a lot of people. However, for others, it would be extremely awkward. A wedding is a semi-public event, where most people know to be on their best behavior. If they can all get through that okay, they'll know they can probably handle something a little more intimate.

IncogNeato:

That would work for a lot of people. However, for others, it would be extremely awkward. A wedding is a semi-public event, where most people know to be on their best behavior. If they can all get through that okay, they'll know they can probably handle something a little more intimate.

I dunno, I've heard of some pretty wild goings on at weddings - it's a pretty fraught day under the best of circumstances. Given the past behavior, I think I'd do it the other way around - test drive things at a private meeting first, before I took that show on the road.

The "ex-wife" is the one who protected her kids when the whores dumped on the family.

Heleva

So much for loath the sin and love the sinner, and forgiving their trespasses.

I can forgive my Dad and his whore...but that doesn't mean the slut comes near me. This could be his last chance to show that his biological children mean more than the whore.