I actually don't have a valid response to the problem of the girl leaving dirty messages on her dad's phone.. but the biggest thing that stuck out in my mind was that:

The girl is 16 YEARS OLD and she was dumb enough to use her FATHER'S phone to text EXPLICIT messages! OMG!

If I or any of my friends back in highschool had that little common sense we would have spent all of our free time in detention or being grounded! If you're going to do things that your parents would disapprove of in highschool, it seems like you'd be a little smarter than to do that in the first place.

I don't know how bad this is. My girfriend is 16(I'm 19, which is pretty bad itself) and while we don't text message, we IM all the time. We talk about sharing a shower all the time and it hasn't happened yet. Of course, she's pretty smart so most of the stuff we talk about online is completely different from what we talk about in person. It's easy to see how her Dad could be worried though. I know a girl who's gone a lot further than talking at 16 and she refuses to use any protection. Not every girl asks her parents about protection over half a year before she's going to need it. It gives him a pretty good opportunity to talk to her if he doesn't blow it way out of proportion. My gf's dad spied on her once, and even though she was furious at him when she found out, it gave him a good opportunity to talk to both of us. Once again though, she's fairly mature for being 16.

"I don't know how bad this is. My girfriend is 16(I'm 19, which is pretty bad itself)"

Don't be so hard on yourself, I was 16 and my fiance was 19 when we got together. It's been 9 years, I'm now 25 and he's 28 and we are engaged to be married. Women mature faster than men so although chronologically you're older, mentally you guys are probably on the same page.

I had to click on your post to tell you that your name is so fabulously ironic for this topic. Cherry Pie, indeed!

Cherry, hon -- re-read the letter. She usually does cover her tracks (i.e. deletes her messages) but dear old Dad spotted them in the backup file.

What took you so long to get engaged? Just wondering...

Yeah, I understood that when reading the letter. I was commenting on the stupidity of even doing that in the first place considering it's not even her phone and it's her fathers... to be outright explicit is just dumb.

Yeah, pretty dumb - just like a typically thoughtless teenager. When I was her age, I only thought I knew it all.