Well, assuming this article is reasonably fair to Bob's son (as far as the facts are concerned), I guess the rest of us can only hope that he has the kind of cold, lonely old age he deserves.

Agree. The adult son's response upon walking in on his father was the most depressing thing I have read in a long while. The oldsters may have dementia, but they are still human, with human needs. More than we can say for sonny. He has a lot more growing up to do. But he has cursed himself -- to emptiness.

I'm not sure the son deserves to be cursed.

Personally, sex outside of marriage is immoral. At least marriage between the elderly is reasonable so they can enjoy each other.

But the son did not condemn it based on moral grounds. Perhaps he's against oral sex all together. Nevertheless, he doesn't deserve to be cursed for it.

Immoral, sheesh.

Your opinion, but know that you're in the minority. What they did was healthy and beautiful. What he did was selfish and ugly. I for one hope he suffers for his actions, whether it's a long, lonely old age or a realization of what he's done which somehow triggers understanding and grief.

He's a tool, no way around it.

Usama2:

Your personal view "sex outside of marriage is immoral" may better be updated to say "irresponsible sex producing unwanted children is immoral." All the preaching on how sex outside of marriage is immoral just makes *some* people feel guilty while they still engage in sex. Teach abstinence outside of marriage and you get even more unwanted pregnancies, and, therefore, many more unwanted children. Maybe it would help you to think of it in this way: "sex without proper birth control is immoral." Teach that to your children and you may avoid an unplanned, possibly unwanted grandchild that may be foisted upon you to raise (and repeat your parenting mistakes with.....I've seen it over and over in my family).

I only hope, at 85 or even 92 (pancreas and heart permitting), I have the interest and the beau for sex. And, I hope I remember to use a condom.

How did the son know that Bob's member was not clean? Did he actually get close enough to get a good look? The son either completely invaded his father's privacy - by presumably walking in without knocking and then getting too close to the action - or he made a very rude assumption.

Maybe the son has some kind of deep resentment towards Bob and just really doesn't want to see him happy.

Also - that horrible private nurse needs to be disciplined. She pressed her religious values on her client. It scares me how free people in this country feel to judge/condemn/oppress others in the name of religion.

cdel,

I agree! Your use of the word "client" clarifies the issue very well. The elderly residents are clients who are paying for a service. The services should be tailored for the needs of the customers. If the residents want to be active, why not provide for those needs with prophylactics and privacy?

Like you, I'd also be worried about the nurse. It seems that in this country, freedom of fundamental Christian evangelism is more important than the basic freedoms in the Bill of Rights. There should be a law against pushing one's religious convictions on others. Otherwise, the separation between church and state is meaningless.